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It's all about personal responsibility........

I heard a joke once about a man who prayed  to God to win the lottery, he prayed and prayed and the drawings went by and he had won nothing and he was back in the church praying again after not winning again when God spoke to him and said, *Work with me, or at least meet me half way and at least buy a ticket!!*

We are responsible for our own personal safety, if we meet someone new, we need to allow them the space and time to prove themselves to us that they are who they say they are, that takes time, it will not happen overnight.  We are responsible if we sit at a bar and order another drink, NOT the person who sells it to us, we are responsible for making the changes in our lives that help us in our personal growth, we cannot call a reader and expect them to miracously tranform our lives if we are not willing to do some of the work ourselves....even if society holds the belief that we can blame everyone else for our troubles,  and take legal action ( like the bartender etc) against those people some of the blame will ALWAYS lay with us....

Joan

 

 

Published Thursday, December 20, 2007 7:29 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: It's all about personal responsibility........ @ Thursday, December 20, 2007 6:56 AM

great post!

askdrdonna

# re: It's all about personal responsibility........ @ Thursday, December 20, 2007 7:53 AM

Joan,
Your on a role with great food for the soul.
When you step back and look at what you just said, so many would not NEED to have the answers that they so want from others all the time.
That they would make decisions ultimately, that would fine tune what and who they are.

They would be able to SEE that they have much work to do themselves as well as another.
They would understand that their own choices can bring them peace or pain.

That as much as the Universal laws are here for us to work with, We make those left or right turns(choices) all by ourselves too.
No one can cause you pain or heartache, anger or frustration unless we allow them that power over our lives.
Every person is responsible for their reactions, their actions, and cannot blame anyone else.
Once that is established in the heart center, than the light bulb stays lite.
Hugs Joan

GIFTED11

# re: It's all about personal responsibility........ @ Thursday, December 20, 2007 8:08 AM

Dear Joan:

As usual your posts ring with solid truth.  I agree so heartedly about personal responsibility.  I have witnessed those who are absolute masters at shirking responsibility that there are days when I wonder where are those who are really evolved and if there are any out there! It seems to be the fashion to place blame on anyone else other than take the responsibility for their own choices in life.  It used to be that kids blamed their parents but I have always believed and know that once you reach adulthood you have the ability to change your path and make better choices.  A lot of people never get past blaming others and stay in the rut of the victim.  Donna is correct in all she said about allowing others that power over us.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: It's all about personal responsibility........ @ Thursday, December 20, 2007 2:36 PM

As the ninth child of ten, I know that I did nto receive the love and attention I needed, I moved 3,000 miles to the U.S when I was a young 20 year old and I know that while I did not get the emotional nourishment I craved and that may have caused me to make some bad choices, armed with that knowledge I will not make my children suffer for the consequences of my childhood. My parents did the best they could no finger of blame will be pointed by me because based upon their own childhoods, they had nothing and they did the very best that they were emotionally equipped for when we were young. It took my until I was a mother to see that, in fact my father is here with me for a month visiting from Ireland now and it will be a memorable xmas as since he is 81, how many more times can I expect him to travel that 3,000 miles???
You live and you learn from lifes experiences and we cannot hold ANYONE hostage to our expectations and demands, or think that they *OWE* us anything simply because we were born to them, it does not work that way,
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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