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Please don't promise me that you can.......

help me find or keep my soulmate...

Everyday life has taught us to have false hope about our soulmates, they are supposed to come into our lives and make it all right, which is not necessarily the case. I feel that the word soulmate is the most overused word in the English Language, which conjours up ideas of perfection in relationships that does not necessarily exist these days.

If our *soulmate* has only come into our lives to teach us something, it will not be the relationship we expect it to be, we can only learn from those we care about and those are the ones who stretch us beyond our own emotional comfort zone so please as a reader if I or someone else calls you do not tell me you know how I can keep my soulmate, he may not be mine to keep in this life time and I may not be his and giving me false hope will only prolong my pain and healing.

It is our ethical duty to not give ANYONE who calls us in pain FALSE HOPE or a rosy picture of what actions we can take to manipulate the emotions of another so that we can have them in our lives ...never a good thing.

That is how I see this, you all may not agree but we all see things differently, such is life..

joan

 

Published Monday, November 26, 2007 10:49 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 9:52 AM

SOULMATE IS A DIRTY WORD!  A soulmate will bring much painful experience, as you are now working at the SOUL level in a relationship . . . although there are fleeting good connection moments . . . the lessons needed to be learned are painful . . . but necessary . . . Best just to wait for your trial to begin!

:) LWW

Little White Witch

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 10:50 AM

Okay, This is how I view this:
Soulmate,twinflame,flameflame,all labels....
They have been defined, refined over and over to fit every standard situation that we as a society wanted to hear and have some sort of lock and key on.

No one can be a lock and key for anyone.
I do not care if it was dipped in 24k gold.
Bringing back anyone against their own freewill is a HUGE NO!No! Not to mention the karma that will play out for reader and client.
Those lessons that hurt the most, that we are up against, are meant for us to remove blocks, learn, learn, and learn. The lesson is what should be worked on with the reader/client.

The how to get through this, the how to move on to the next round, those that are in denial will stay their for as long as they need to, or want too. You can only speak the truth to them and tell them to go within their own internal self and if you are able to guide them to come to a place of understanding.
Not everything is meant to be known right now, and we will never get an accurate answer if it is not to be known.
Actually knowing to much to fast, would never leave the time and work that may be needed for the individuals to go through.

Much Love, Donna



GIFTED11

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 11:23 AM

I have a real strong adversity to the word soulmate.  I believe it is a misconception that was created to sell books.  It is a label like Donna says that is just that a label.  I know from speaking with my guide Joseph that we do have entities who agree to help us on our life journey...I call them kindred spirits and they are from the pool of spirits on the other side that are your soul family.  We meet them throughout our life and some of the connections are meant to propel us into another way of thinking etc and to help us find our true life purpose.  Some of these encounters are not pleasant.  The concept of their only being one soul that is going to be with you throughout your many lifetimes just does not jell with me and I think it is something that is used to manipulate the most vulnerable.  I am in agreement with Joan and I just wish we could erase that label away.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 11:25 AM

i do not believe that anyone has the power to bring a soulmate back but the soulmate theirself. everything has its timing. it is wrong to force someone to be with you if they do not want to at the time. love hurts sometimes but one can not make someone be with them in order to end the pain. both parties have to want to work through the issues.

justaskdrdonna

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 11:57 AM

I had a thought just now, Joan, I am not looking to change the orginal intent of your blog:)
But, what if keen closed their doors to the "old way" of operating and those that could not move into the next "phase", well could remain where they are, or start working more on themselves to advance within their own vessel.

What if right now, we all decided, those that are willing to only work with guiding on soul levels for clients. No more answers for immediate pain solutions.
More on how to cope with the "changes" the now points, the pain your in not from a soulmate or twinflame, more that they were a lesson for you to work through to the core issues.

What if today was announced that no more reunited relationships could come about.
That whatever pain that you have remained in from a relationship that you are waiting on would not work out and the person is not coming back, not now or maybe not ever.

Not this way, not with the intent to make you have a bandaid to feel better for that minute.
No one is responsible for your pain, that pain was there to guide you within to another advancement of your life.

What if you have go deeper within yourself, and allow some Gifted people here at keen to guide you through to the pain and assist you to finding solutions, ones that are life altering.
Find that peace and solace that you really are in search for.
So all the hocus pocus, that is being advertised and the gifted to reunite, and the 100% accurates,will not survive, not like that *wink*
We can change this place to be what it is truly meant for, so Gifted children of God can perform what we are truly here to do, and set free all the chains that have people attached too.
Ok, sorry getting alittle excited here:)
Much Love,
Donna

GIFTED11

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 12:21 PM

I have done much soul searching myself and it was someone I was told was a soul mate that brought me to keen in the first place, and it has made me question as to whether some of us have to go through issues ourselves to be able to help others going through pain of relationships ?
As for the reunitings soulmates claims, ANOTHER pet peeve of mine and as for the percentage of accuracy? How in the name of God can you measure that?
It is truly freeing to give yourself closure, and not expect it from others.
Painful to wait for it or another to return when they may never....
Do you want to keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result? Takes a while to *get it* but sure does feel good when you do..
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 1:11 PM

THANK YOU for posting this blog.  As most of us know, soul mates come in many forms and can be any gender...or even animals...like my dogs who are two of my guides.  Heck, my Twin Flame/Divine Complement (choose your label..lol!) is a 62 yo man who is my Reiki Master/Teacher.  No romance there, just learning and good laughs.  I have been debating coming on Keen as an advisor so have been seriously thinking about my principles in giving readings and what I will/won't help a client with.  Reuniting anyone against another's will is NOT something I help with.  Even delving into another's personal life pushes my boundaries now as I had a bit of a lesson to learn on that one;-)  Donna is right, the karma of tampering with another's free will is downright scary and I would not want to be on the receiving end.  I'd rather share the knowledge and wisdom I've gained about Life Force Energy (my Reiki training...LOVE IT!), integrating the new energy, letting go and having faith, positivity, and all of that, to help people attain the gifts they deserve in this life and in this world..and thus help raise the vibration.  Been there and done that with a soul mate who is unfortunately stuck in 3D, not realizing my mirroring, and refuses help.  I won't let his negative energy bring me down from my vibration nor take me from my path as a future healer through Reiki (although blessings to him and gratitude for waking me up and all that he showed me that I needed to heal...we're still friends.)  No one should let another who can't/won't change dictate their life...no fun in that and as stated you will remain on the never-ending hamster wheel, hoping, waiting, miserable.  Find yourself, find your true worth, find your passions, find your soul, love yourself for absolutely all that you are, live and have fun, and it feels sooooooo good that you wonder why you ever wanted to feel so rotten and trapped on that hamster wheel!!  Been there, done that...but no longer.  I'm worth more than the hamster wheel...we all are:-)  Blessings and love all!!

Maryann

maryann217

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 2:30 PM

I love reiki and go regularly for my fix, it relaxes me and helps me get past things I fear, years ago i would have laughed and did make fun of reiki but it is so wonderful, I have three sisters who practice it in Ireland now.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 3:10 PM

I don't believe in "Soulmates". I believe that we arrange to interact with certain people within this lifetime and some stay for a long time and some don't.
Simple! It's all about the experience, the learning, that we came here to have.
This is "schoolhouse Earth" and EVERYONE that we interact with adds to the lessons we came here to learn.
We, as humans, need to have someone in our lives so we have created a term; "soulmate" and we search for that person only to find the people we contracted to work with us here. There is no soulmate.
Angel of Ascension

Angel of Ascension

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 4:16 PM

Oh Joan, I'm a Reiki junkie and my dogs are now too!  They LOVE receiving Reiki and they have calmed down so much since I started.  So, can't blame you and I love the way it helps bring the negativity to the surface for you to heal and release.  I also love that it helps with my sore muscles after exercise..hehe.  I'm dying to go to Ireland so may want to look up your sisters for a little Reiki share!

I also think Angel and Rosie got it with the soulmate stuff.  We have our contracts, we have our lessons and we come here to learn.  My Reiki master did tell me that he lost his house/property clearing soul connection/mate/partner so asked Spirit for another...and in I walked when he was giving a Reiki demo looking to take Reiki.  Sure enough, both of us are being guided that I'm his new partner working on the darkside.  But, that just goes to show that when one connection exits, another will enter to help us again on schoolhouse Earth (love that description Angel! Hope you don't mind if I borrow it)

Love and blessings!
Maryann

maryann217

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 5:49 PM

I think the word 'soulmate' has, in recent times, become a pop-culture synonym for "Mr." or "Ms. Right."  Who hasn't seen that TV commercial for eHarmony that says, "Let us help you find your soulmate."?

Being a writer and a wordsmith I tend to agree that the word 'soulmate' has become a bit convoluted. Lately I've noticed myself using the word 'life partner,' to describe someone with whom I would share my life with in a long term, committed relationship, such as marraige.  I think the words 'life partner' have a lot more clarity than the word 'soulmate'



marinachristie

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 6:20 PM

Great share on here today, I have learned, I have shared and now all is well again *wink*
Now Maryann,
Share some Reiki with me, sore muscles, in need of some upheaving as well.:)
Oh and my golden Oliver needs some too, he is alittle needy:)

Hugs to all,
Donna

GIFTED11

# re: Please don't promise me that you can....... @ Monday, November 26, 2007 8:59 PM

I have to say that you are right...soulmates can be many different people...they are the people that teach and help us to maintain a healthy life within us...they can be both male and female...to us...they don't have to be a partner..they can be a friend...

True soul mates don't always end up together...most times they fall apart quickly and we move on but they have given us what we need for that time...

Shoshanna

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