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Readings, Readers and Clients.......

I know that readings are a highly emotional topic for some clients, they may feel betrayed and disapointed by readers and readings. You must understand that there are many reasons misunderstandings can and DO happen in a reading. No amount of negative, nasty, mean spirited feedback will help you get past this feeling of emptiness and may in fact only make you look foolish as a client and possibly cause readers to avoid taking your call if they have seen your name all over keen on other readers pages doing what has become known as *bashing* Expressing how you feel about your interaction can be done in a constructive manner, without mean spirited comments.

When you have unrealistic expectations of your reader, as in you expect the human being at the end of the phone to have all the answers and know everything and that is just not possible ( well I speak for myself and not others)  This is not just about what I have seen clients refer to as the *free will cop out* as having the ability to change your mind is not a cop out, I am sure that if all of your choices were taken away from you today, how would that make you feel? I know that I for one would not like that very much.

This is not just about that long awaited and focused upon phone call, email, text etc that you are waiting for not coming on time or at all........this is about the situations that we go through that we should look at as learning experiences and once we focus on what we need to learn from this situation or pattern,(relationship)  and what we should not be doing ( manipulating, obsessing, stalking, passive agressively controlling, attention seeking, driving by, not being honest with ourselves or others about this) then we can begin to get past the road blocks that stall, delay or even stop us manifesting the relationships that we deserve.

I know what it feels like to have to have spent thousands on readings and readers and not have that long awaited prediction occur, but calling too often and becoming dependent on readers can in fact work against you. You need to temper yourself and not call too often, do not be dependent on your advisor, do not mark your calender with the magical date that that *contact* will happen ( I do not plan hours,days, weeks or months in advance when I call someone that there is an uncomfortable situation to be resolved with) sometimes it's just easier to avoid, or not deal with the situation and sometimes out of the blue we are ready to tackle that person who we evoked that strong emotional reaction to us and the emotions we evoked in them. Most of the time people become ready to *deal* with the situation and relationship when we (the person waiting ) is not *needing it* so much, Weird is'nt it ???

Joan

 

 

Published Monday, September 17, 2007 9:24 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# Great post! @ Monday, September 17, 2007 8:20 AM

I don't often peruse the blogs but I just updated mine and thought I'd take a peek. I really loved what you had to say here. I often hear about the free will cop-out too, but the fact is, there is no fate. As psychics, we're always dealing in the realm of possibility and I think that's a wonderful thing! Fate and destiny  sound like pretty words but they essentially mean that we have no choice over the path that our lives take. As a Witch, it is fundamental to my belief system that we can take control of our fates. Druids were the wise people of Celtic cultures, so you fulfill your role well in understanding this truth. Kudos!

Blessings,

Christian

Christian Day

# re: Readings, Readers and Clients....... @ Monday, September 17, 2007 11:52 AM

Joan I hope you do not mind for me to speak my mind..lol That is funny:)

I would like to speak with my heart on this subject,This is a delicate subject yet,needs a strong warrior like verbage.
Love is not something you can buy, or better yet, magical make happen with with 'pushing' 'forcing' ranting and raving.
Going compleyely insane over!
We have so many Laws at hand to work with, Laws that we know nothing truly about until recently starting to work with them again more,Calling everyone under the sun to get an answer that you truly do know yourself.
Expecting to have what you want pronto, asap.

Expecting times, dates, to all fall in line immediately as described from your advisor.
I don't know about anyone else, but I do know that I have always said, When I am asked on times and so forth,I have said this is what I get now and so do not bank on that. I am just getting that! period..
Why push if you already know it may not happen, I can tell you why..
You hate being not in control of something you so desperately want at that time.
Do you truly want that? or is it the fact that you have no control over it?
I bet if you ask this question more, you will get your answer faster and more precise.
Nevermind does he/she love me?
How about do you love yourself? If the answer is no, than here lies your foundation to work from.
Because if you do not love yourself, every part you can bet he/she will not love you all either.

Much lOVE,
Donna

GIFTED11

# re: Readings, Readers and Clients....... @ Monday, September 17, 2007 12:25 PM

We are fearful of the things we feel we cannot control, and when we care about someone There is so much to be said about the attractivness of the unavailable to us.It's a battle of the EGO which is RELENTLESS and we don't even know that we want things more because they are seemingly unavailable to us at the time. It's kinda like the kMart pocketbook and the Prada pocketbook. We as women know the value of the Prada, and we could pick up the kmart anytime so it is available to us and not so attractive to us. And yet we all want the prad which may for now be out of our reach.Which pocketbook do You want to be?
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Readings, Readers and Clients....... @ Monday, September 17, 2007 3:58 PM

Thank you for another insightful blog Joan.  The control issue is something I deal with all the time with my clients.  I make mistakes and sometimes some of the things I see don't come to pass and I feel so terrible about it but I am learning to let it go and know I am not infallible and I am not God and the Universe has a definite right to change its mind if it wants to!  I enjoy your blogs immensely and I thank you for sharing.

Rosie

Rosalea

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