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SEXTING............
The NEW texting involves naked or semi-naked pictures of MIDDLE SCHOOL kids ( YES, I SAID MIDDLE SCHOOL) kids sent to one and then forwarded onto EVERY kid in the school, now I saw this on Dr Phil the other evening and was shocked and now I see in my Sunday paper that this very thing is happening in many Middle Schools all over the country.
As the parent of a 7th and 10th grader both of whom possess cell phones ( neither have one with camera's on them) this concerns me greatly and IF I found out or saw evidence of their cell phones being used in an inappropriate manner it would be taken ( even forcibly if required) from the child and NOT returned to them until they had regained my trust. I do not feel the need to be *friends* with my children, and I tell them that I am running a dictatorship NOT a democracy.
I am not sure what is wrong with girls that they seem to think that to be popular with boys, they have to perform sexual acts at a very young age when they may not be emotionally prepared for that kind of interaction with boys.
I say take the phones off them IF they do not LEARN to use them properly, one incident of this kind of thing with a girl sending a boy those kinds of pictures when asked for could result in ruining of the reputation of that girl for life AND charges being taken against ANY child who sent or received that picture text as possession of that kind of picture of a MINOR child is a FELONY and your child could be charged. SO I suggest you TALK to your kids of the dangers of engaging in that kind of text exchange BEFORE it happens,
Joan

Published Sunday, February 01, 2009 12:22 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: SEXTING............ @ Monday, February 02, 2009 9:37 AM

This is an appalling phenomena.  Hopefully some of the pushers of immorality will begin to examine what they are encouraging young people to do.  I doubt it, but I can hope.

You are obviously a loving, involved mother.  Keep up the good work.  We need more loving, involved mothers and fathers.

I run a dictatorship too...a benevolent one, but still a dictatorship.  ;-)

James Vitale

# re: SEXTING............ @ Monday, February 02, 2009 9:59 AM

It's a scary world these days, and we have to be aware that there are so many more ways for our children to be taken advantage of and so many more pressures on a child that many of us did not have to experience when we were young. I thought I was so cool with my walkman :-) And the ONLY way to nullify the negative is to be there for your children and not as their friends but as their protectors and to guide them.

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: SEXTING............ @ Monday, February 02, 2009 10:39 AM

Hey, my friends newphew got involved in this. It was pretty awful. I am very, very, concerned about the way young people see threir bodies, and themselves. Thank you for posting this.

Madea-Michelle

# re: SEXTING............ @ Monday, February 02, 2009 3:16 PM

The youth of today face many more distractions and ways that they can communicate and be communicated with. It is a completely different world these kids find themselves growing up in. These day being sexual at a very young age is the norm not the exception, and they have a Bill Clintonesque view to the sexual act and that is not necessarily a healthy way to be in this day and age...
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: SEXTING............ @ Tuesday, February 03, 2009 8:08 AM

Good blog Joan - and this is very disturbing to me even though I don't have kids. For the period of time that I was a stepmom, we (my now ex-husband, his ex-wife, and me) ran a benevolent dictatorship too. Kids have to mature at their own rate and show that they have good judgment/responsiblity in order to have certain freedoms and privileges. If the kid makes a mistake, the parent(s) owe it to the child to help him or her correct it and learn from it.

DestinyTarot

# re: SEXTING............ @ Tuesday, February 03, 2009 12:03 PM

It does not matter whether they are step children or not as we are there to parent the child regardless or whether we gave birth to them or not :-) And YES we owe it to them to help them correct it and learn from it as we are supposed to do as adults :-) These are indeed disturbing times we are raising children in.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: SEXTING............ @ Tuesday, February 03, 2009 4:24 PM

The biggest issue seems that we want to be friends with our kids ( I do not personally ) but many do and that can cause some of the issues that allows these kinds of things to take place in the first place, after all its a different world to when we grew up :-)

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: SEXTING............ @ Tuesday, February 03, 2009 4:29 PM

Parents forget they can and should remove the cell phones (they ARE paying for them) at any time unless they are used responsibly at all times. Although they are handy when the kids are out and about to keep track of them :-) I recommend gps systems being installed in teenagers LOL Nah but it would be nice if we could keep track of them. I do have a chip in my dog who is a pure bred field spaniel who is a show dog :-)
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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