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Boundaries

How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

Selective Hearing ....
We all have it.....
The reader says something and the caller repeats back what they think you said.......and you have to clarify because you did not say what they have taken from the prediction. Because it is not the exact script of what they think it should be...is not going to move as quick as they want it or it is not moving as fast or in the direction they want it to....
And then there is the idea of how we THINK things SHOULD be and we listen to it when our significant other says what we want them to say and yet do not listen when they tell us what we do not want to hear.
It's usually our expectations that can get us into trouble.  We expect a person to say what they mean and mean what they say and yet we cannot always do that ourselves.....
We expect our friends to be there for us and yet we are not there for them.
We expect our lovers to want to go as fast as we want and yet we are blissfully unaware of their wants and needs in the relationship or their boundaries and we do not respect them.
We hear what we want to hear........we listen when we are hearing what we want to hear and seem to not want to listen when we are told things we do not want to hear or it does not fit into our plan....
Take out the ear plugs and be aware if someone does not mean what they say and say what they mean. Be aware that they need to follow through, call when they say they will.....do what they say they will do. Those are kind of hints you need to watch out for....Listen to what's being said, watch what's being done....and listen to your inner gut instinct, it does not lie to you....
Joan

Published Tuesday, July 07, 2009 6:45 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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