Talking the Talk but not walking the walk....
So many people are unhappy, but are they unhappy enough to actually do something about it?
So many people are blissfully unaware of their own faults and yet point out the faults of others readily...we all have faults and hard lessons are what makes us aware of them, and hopefully we can and do learn from them, and many times when we are pointing out what we consider fault in others, we are guilty of that same fault in some way, we just choose not to see it in ourselves....
So many people are self righteous and holier than thou verbally and with the written word and yet in their own lives and interpersonal realtionships are sadly not. We never really know people, and no one knows what they may be experiencing, so in some ways it may not be fair to rush to judgement, yet many of us do judge, it is human nature.
So many people accuse others of their own faults and cannot see the forest for the trees or that the things they accuse others of they are in fact guilty of those very things themselves....and we have all done this at some point.
So many point the finger of blame and see no fault and blame in themselves....
So many people to blame, so little time to blame them.....take a look in the mirror before you start blaming others for your own faults....your own problems and maybe then you can start taking responsibility for them instead of blaming others....then and ONLY then can you move beyond them and actually learn from them instead of the blame game you play SO well....otherwise you will be complaining about the same things, the same faults, the same problems....for many relationships and years to come.....and that's when people get tired of the same old dance you did with the last man, the last relationship..... no point in dancing the same dance with the same or different pair of pants....you do not get extra points for repeating the lesson...you only get the same heartache and your friends only get tired of listening.... and we all have been guilty of same, even if we do not care to admit it....to ourselves and others, but being honest with self is the beginning of a beautiful thing..
We cannot change anyone else, we can only change ourselves, and that can and will evoke change in others around us....
Joan