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Teenagers out of control.....

I just watched a video on nbc regarding six teenagers that attacked another because of postings on myspace that the victim had supposedly posted.

As the mother of two children one teenager and another acting like one :-) This concerned me greatly. It is not the first instance, and many of the children  involved in the incident were not living with their parents.

I am horrified that children could possibly behave that way towards another child and whats more show no remorse regarding what occured towards law enforcement when taken into custody.

Occasionally I watch reality tv and was disgusted at the way that the kids in the Sweet 16 show behaved. Not to mention the parents.....Are they REALLY doing the best  thing for their girls giving them so much? Do you think that ANY man would be able to live up to that? Do you think any man could? It's setting them up with unrealistic expectations of others in life and since expectations are the thing that falls short every time, it is not doing your children any favors to give them everything, everytime. Many may not share that opinion, and in all honesty most of us want to give our children what we did not have, BUT, that is not necessarily the best way to help them grow up with REALISTIC expectations of life and others.

The availability of internet, on line violent games, cell phones, gives children the idea that they are living in a semi-real life and that what they do and say on line or in texts is not REALITY. When in fact what we should be teaching our children is that you should not do or say anything on line or in texts that you would not do or say in person, those words written or texted have the power to hurt others and could in fact come back to haunt you.

Doing the right thing when raising kids is not always the easiest thing, and doing the easiest thing creates bad habits and causes major problems and may cost you and your children in the long term.

Joan

 

Published Tuesday, April 08, 2008 7:39 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: Teenagers out of control..... @ Tuesday, April 08, 2008 6:38 AM

I forgot to mention that one of the mothers interviewed appeared to be not taking any responsibility for her daughters part not to mention the fact that she placed some of the blame on the victim ??? Good parenting? I think not.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Teenagers out of control..... @ Tuesday, April 08, 2008 7:30 AM

Dear Joan:

I have friends who have children with "Facebook" and "Myspace" pages and they purchase software to regulate what their children do on them.  With the number of pedophiles, irresponsible young children and parents that do not care it is a necessity I think to see what your children are doing online.  I have been told the software works in the background and is very good.  I have written blogs about this before and I really agree with you about kids being out of control and in some cases so very vicious.  It is really sad.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: Teenagers out of control..... @ Tuesday, April 08, 2008 7:48 AM

Neither of my children have facebook or myspace accounts, there is another one that is big in Europe Bebo ( their cousins are on that site in Ireland, Holland and England)  I moniter their time on the computer, my son is not allowed to speak to ANYONE he does not know in REAL life. The computer is in the kitchen when being used. I do what I can, he does not hang out with anyone who drinks, smokes and I KNOW the parents.  Many teenagers are drinking, smoking and engaging in sexual practices. One state ( Vermont I think?) was thinking of offering middle school children birth control.... That HORRIFED me as I have a girl who will be 12 in May. We are forcing these kids to grow up WAY before their time which is doing them or US no favors...
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: Teenagers out of control..... @ Monday, May 05, 2008 10:54 AM

Sorry to say,as someone who has worked in a high school (and had teens of my own)not that much shocks me anymore.
I've seen it all-including girls who wore lingerie or short shirts to school showing a birth control patch on their abdomens (as sort of a status symbol)
As a parent we can only try our best to guide them along the way in life -it's no easy task of course.

Jewel265

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