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The Feedback debate....

rages all over keen and it is all over the blogs..... so many different opinions.
Should a reader ask for it? Do we deserve it, or do we see it as a right?
Should a reader give free minutes for it?
I never personally ask for feedback, I do not expect it, I do not see it as a right, nor do I feel that five star feedback is a right. It is not my place to feel that I deserve it and I have many people that I am honored to read for who tell me how accurate I have been for them or that I have uttered the exact words of the person in question in my readings and yet they do not leave me feedback. And I have many callers who call me regularly who have never left me feedback.
Any caller of mine will attest to the fact that I never ask them for feedback.
There are none of us who like negative feedback, who gets to decide if it is warranted or deserved? I do not mind it if it is accurate and honest about their experience or exchange of energy that took place in our reading, and while I may not like it.... it is part and parcel of being a reader in an instant fix society...

And please as a reader do the responsible thing and clean out your client lists, and do not email your callers looking for feedback PARTICULARLY if they have NOT called you or had contact with you in YEARS. I do not personally care to be asked to leave feedback as a caller ( even if I have called that reader, but especially if I have NOT called them) and I do not think it it my right to EXPECT people to leave me feedback, or written feedback. I am of the belief that callers do not want to think that is your focus when they call you and if you do go around asking for it, that may lead callers to believe it is a focus....
It is up to us to be responsible in editing our lists as opposed to constantly bombarding callers with our availability or attempting to get feedback from them if they have chosen not to leave it for us.

Joan

Published Tuesday, September 08, 2009 7:13 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: The Feedback debate.... @ Sunday, August 30, 2009 7:44 AM

Hi Joan, great post.
I find that many of my callers - here and outside Keen - are simply private in nature and feel no need to offer feedback. I learned very early on that for me to anticipate feedback was okay, but to expect it was a deviation from my personal principles.
Many sites do the feedback thing as an advertising mechanism, less so a way to "keep the intuitives in the tao", but it has become such an issue that clients themselves expect it. Clients form very strong opinions about it, and should they not see copious positive feedback with excessive repeat customers, will move on.
I stay in the tao because that is how I Am. I also serve only those who desire to be served, whether they are repeat clients or not. It may be that I have a one-time only message for a particular client, and am therefore successful simply because we connected and I gave the reading. But to coerce that person into becoming a mainstay client defeats the purpose of the connection to begin with. And to desire feedback of them seems less worthwhile than what I actually *gave*.
Just my two cents.
: )
Yours,
in love and light love and light love and light,
Ahliyah

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# re: The Feedback debate.... @ Sunday, August 30, 2009 12:41 PM

I find that some readers appear to expect feedback and will accept no less than stellar feedback. And people are entitled to be private if they so choose and they are entitled to say how they felt about their interaction with the reader. I have thousands of unrated calls and never ask for it, it's how I am as a reader. I also try not to believe my own feedback when it is good :-)
I don't like being right about a situation when it might not be what the person wanted to hear, but I find that some callers will call me back to tell me how right I was.
Joan

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# re: The Feedback debate.... @ Tuesday, September 08, 2009 9:29 AM

Ahliyah I totally agree with you. I don't ask for feedback and I don't believe we should. It puts pressure on your clients I believe and I try not to do that. I know that some have offered minutes in exchange for feedback and that is something I don't do either. I think the only way feedback can be valuable is if it is voluntary with no pressure. I have cried tears over some feedback but I have learned to understand like everything else there will be good with the not so good. I simply try to do my very best for my clients and then if they give me good feedback it is icing on the cake.

Great blog Joan and thanks for sharing with us.

Rosie

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# re: The Feedback debate.... @ Tuesday, September 08, 2009 10:54 AM

Feedback is subjective and depends on the interaction. And for some people if they want to not leave feedback that is their choice. And if their feedback is based upon having a nice interaction, OR if it is prediction based or none at all, we do NOT get to say. And while I may not agree with all comments on my blog....I welcome all opinions, I can learn from differing opinions..for me, that IS the purpose of the blogs. Same as feedback I do not believe all the good feedback ( it might swell my head :-) And I can learn from the not so good feedback, we learn from every interaction.... makes me see, I for one, do NOT know it all....
Joan