The Spoken Word versus the Actions.....
Boy!! oh BOY!! Have we all had times when promises made were
broken. Broken promises from friends are one thing but they cut deeper
when they are broken by lovers, and for some reason we find it harder
to *hear* the words when they are not matched by the actions....
Why would someone promise to love you, when they are not acting like it?
Why would someone promise to leave him/her when they have not yet done so?
Why oh why do these things happen...
There is no easy answer to that as each circumstance is different.
I would like to believe that most people mean things when they say them, even if they do not follow through.
And what situations look like, is not necessarily a true indication of what it actually IS now or WILL be in the future.
In this instant fix society, we want a pill for this, a tonic for that
and instant gratification of that text or email responded to
immediately and when it does not happen we panic.
What I have learned is that the response or delayed response from an
individual is not necessarily about you so much as the person and how
they deal with their emotions and at times they feel the need to pull
back and wait to respond.
A delayed response only has the power to hurt you based upon the nature of the relationship you have with the person.
And remember that not everyone will see or experience things as you do even though we judge ourselves and others based upon the filters we use for our own lives.... At times giving others the time and space they need may in fact work in our favor in the long run.....
Joan
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