The Vacuum of Need............
We all have one...
We all use it...
In our friendships...
In our relationships...
We may be blissfully unaware of it at times....but I can guarantee you that others FEEL it deeply and most do not care for it....and may avoid it....
So we must try not to SUCK the life out of the people in our lives... Remember they may NOT be able to deal with our emotional intensity.....
And remember that everything is NOT about US....
I recall a friend who was having yet another man crisis....in the space of 5 minutes she had emailed me twice, called me on my home and cell phone and texted me.......because she was having yet another MAN crisis...... and at that point I was unable to deal with her at that moment as I had other things going on in my own life that had to take priority over her latest crisis....imagine the cheek of me NOT responding to her in HER time frame? How DARE I ??
But I have a family that needs to take priority so I take that time when necessary.....it keeps me grounded and makes me a better reader and friend.....
.I did give her hours of my time when I could and yet it was not appreciated and I realized that the friendship was not reciprocal and needed to back away from it....One does not give to receive or should not...but having the life sucked out of you by a needy friend can only go on so long..... :-)
Needless to say she did not appreciate that at the time and was completely unavailable when I needed an ear.... However I knew that this was only the latest in the bad choices one can make and I am sure there are many more, I simply choose NOT to participate in drama any more....and that might still suck....but not for me anymore :-)
Joan
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