Timing is ..........
Not an exact science, it never was and never will be. And as for that *Free Will* ? It seems to annoy some callers as if it was used as an excuse by their reader for a man/woman NOT calling, a man/woman NOT commiting, a choice that someone we care for makes that we ourselves personally do not care for...
We ALL have free will, and SURE it's hurtful when that free will is exercised by another and the choice they make is not one we wanted them to make, did not meet our expectations, however if *WE* want to have our own *free will* to make our own choices, choose our own path and relationship partners, then surely we need to understand that others also have that same right :-)
*Free Will* is not a cop out, it's a rational explaination for someone's right to choose, the same right we all enjoy, the same way I get to choose to have coffee or tea this morning. Obviously when that *Free Will* is used by a man/woman to not call us, to end the relationship we had high hopes for, to not communicate with us the reasons for dumping us or just disapearing off the face of the earth, we are devastated....it's hurtful and we demand closure..... what we have to understand that the other person may not (for their own personal reasons) want to *deal* with us and our heightened emotions at the time *WE* want or *NEED* to.
And sometimes when we get over ourselves, get out of our own way, and get on with our lives without, calling, texting, instant messaging the object of our affection with our fear heightened responses in a manner that may to them seem like crowding and stalker like..........they become (in their OWN time) ready to re-visit the situation and we get the answers we want or need.
Our timing may not be theirs.......and the fear can turn us into what I have termed an *Emotional Vacuum of NEED* ( I WILL be watching to see if ANYONE else uses that term, because it's MINE, MINE I tell you :-) which can cause the other to avoid our highly tense emotional energy until they can *DEAL* with us, this does not happen all the time, but it CAN happen....
As for the myth that exact timing can be predicted in all cases? I will have to break it to you that is not the truth in many cases. For that to occur, I am of the opinion that our lives would have to be so thought out that every moment of our days would be scheduled in such a precise manner that would interfere with the free will we hate in others but love in ourselves..........:-)
Now excuse me, I have a phone call scheduled to my mother in Ireland in precisely two minutes ( it's been on the books for YEARS) and I need to re-fill my coffee (also pre-scheduled for years)
p.s. please refer to my previous blog for my all around disclaimer regarding plagiarism. This blog is not the work of anyone else, and if it resmbles anything else ever written in the free world, I RESEMBLE that...
Joan