We are in control of.......
our own emotions and we must learn to take responsibility for that.
In this holiday season no one owes us anything and in all honesty every human being has had lonely holidays and holiday seaons filled with family and friends. We cannot expect people to include us in their plans if we are *Debbie Downers* all the time. We are the ones who are in control of our moods and people who are crusty and moody, are hard work during the holiday season so it is a two sided effort. Yes, it is a lonely time for some, but we have ALL had holidays alone and ones where we were surrounded by loved ones, and yes we should include others who are not but if the person is cranky and negative, that invitation might not be extended again..... and you as the cranky person would have to take responsibility for that :-)
Last Xmas I was alone on xmas, and I did things to make myself happy, did things to treat myself and just got on with it. I did not inflict my mood on others and I was grateful to be included in some holiday affairs during the month of December and I did all I could to keep my mood as level as I was capable of during that occasion, and when I could not, I exited gracefully thanking my host and went home.
So for all of you other women, who's boyfriends will be spending the holidays with their wives (that they are not happy with) find a man who is physically available for next year. And for all you other lonely souls, do things to make YOURself happy, and please KNOW that NO one can make YOU happy if you are not happy within yourself, then maybe the invitations will pick up for next year.
Joan