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What is disturbing to me about blog comments is...
The fact that the power  and weight of words is  and continues to be amazing, they can be used to heal or to divide, hurt or give comfort. They can teach,  inspire, and change lives. What they should not be is manipulated. My father raised me to not commit to paper words I might later regret.  I try in my personal and professional life to adhere to that standard. What I have noticed in this day and age, is people are quick to fire off an email and or text in the heat of the moment full of the instant emotion they experience causing regret to later seep into their consciousness. The damage sometimes cannot be undone.
What causes me great concern is that on these keen blogs, is that ones comments can be manipulated and changed by the person whose blog you responded to. That disturbs me greatly that words attribued to YOU may not have been the words that you did write or type.
By all means keep the ability to delete comments, but REMOVE please the ability to CHANGE and MANIPULATE words that will be taken as written by someone else when YOU the BLOGGER has changed them YOURSELF. That is a situation that could create a BIG problem for the person who made the comments and that person may not in fact be responsible for the words that are attributed to them.
Words have consequences, I have no problem paying for the words I say or write but ONLY if I have in fact written them...
Joan
 

Published Wednesday, March 05, 2008 12:13 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:29 AM

RE: "is that ones comments can be manipulated and changed by the person whose blog you responded to. That disturbs me greatly that words attribued to YOU may not have been the words that you did write or type."

OMG!!!  Why would Keen allow this?
That's crazy...I don't like that feature at all.

God bless you.
Thanks for letting us know about that.
-Wysteria Blossom

Wysteria Blossom

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:35 AM

I know for a fact this happens as something I had posted on another readers blog was actually skewed to favor her. In other words she left out one of my words and changed it to a new one.
I couldn't believe it when I saw it!

Jewel265

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:39 AM

They really need to fix that.

What's the point of us adding our comments if they can be manipulated anyway?

Gosh!

Wysteria Blossom

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:43 AM

I know it has happened to comments I left on the blog of another and while it did not change the essence of the comment, it took out an issue I addressed in the comment, I am not sure why they allow this but I am hoping it does not continue.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:51 AM

Geez Joan I did not know that comments could be changed once written.  I have never gone back and looked at past comments I have made on others blogs.  That is a little scary.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:56 AM

Go look at your blog rosie and the control panel, and click on the comments link. You will see and understand what I mean, it is more than scary to think that something you did not write, could be made to look as if you did, pretty scary stuff in the grand scheme of things..
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 9:58 AM

te good thing is that keen has all accurate records of blog comments. even the ones that we delete. this is excellent so that if your comments have been changed due report it to keen.

justaskdrdonna

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 10:03 AM

You know I just don't have time to do this and that is sad that we might have to.  I really never add too much to others blogs just that I appreciated them so I am not going to worry about it but it sure should be something that Keen looks at.  Thanks for advising us about it Joan.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 10:07 AM

The point is not really whether keen keeps track of any comments writen, deleted or edited, the issue is that others have access to and the ability to change the words you write on the blog comments, words that will look as if YOU wrote them and that may not be the case, who cares who keeps track of that? I don't personally but I DO care that others have the ability  to change what I wrote, that is the deeper issue here
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 11:30 AM

wow, Joan, thank you for making this known. I tested it myself on my blog just now.
Good to bring this to light.

Jeekers17

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 12:03 PM

scary eh?
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 12:42 PM

You know what really bothers me is if you make a simple comment and someone has the ability to change it into something derogatory and Keen takes action against you.  That is a scarier thought.  There has been so much animosity lately circulating around the blogs that may not be as far fetched as we think.  Keep us informed Joan and I think maybe all of us should send Keen our opinions about this.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 1:55 PM

That is what bothers me also Rosie,
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 2:22 PM

As a side note, I will be copying and pasting EVERY comment I make on ANY blog, as a precaution,
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 4:43 PM

What is MORE disturbing is that SOME readers do not allow ANYONE to have an opinion that is different to theirs on THEIR blog, as for me and my blog? ALL opinions are welcome even if I do not agree, I can always learn from the different opinions of others.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 7:08 PM

Dear Joan:

Thanks so much for alerting us and I agree about allowing all comments to stand.  I never have had to drop comments except from the Greek guys when they were advertising on our blogs!  I think that it is healthy to have a good debate and to listen to what others have to tell us even if I disagree sometimes.  

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 8:58 PM

Joan,

I agree many times that people need to be able to speak and share.  Do we live in a land of no freedom? Now people want to censor how and what someone shares. If it was not this, what would it be next? I have been around keen long enough to have seen from newbies to semi newbies,keen when I started in 2001 when I spent bucks calling for answers, learning the ropes so to speak...Getting myself into situations that were at that time very hard, fianacially, and emotionally. Unless you walked that walk, and participated in that space...You will not know what one experienced and what was brought to them to teach for others. I do not forget the lesson, I do not hold onto the feeling, but...I do not forget how easy it is to become desperate.

That is what I think many clients will be glad to see in advisors. Those that do not have to bark so loud, or perform with a show of some sort,,Joan...Rosie you gals have huge impacts on this blog/keen world..You keep it real and untouched and untarnished...
hugs,

GIFTED11

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Thursday, March 06, 2008 1:34 AM

Having a different opinion does not mean that you are telling someone how to feel about anything and if anyone feels that way it is more about themsevles than you or your differences of opinion. An opinion is like a nose everyone has one, and we are all entitled to them, we may not have come by them easily, but they are part of our essence, part of who we really are, one can be expressed without threat to another.  And comments that were made to attempt to help another see that they appear to not be able to let something go is not an attempt to tell another what they feel, only what repeatedly speaking about the same issue over and over might look like to another. I know the *intention* I had when making the comments, and if they were taken out of context, stretched beyond recognition in order to make them into something they were not, I was not the creator of that, someone else choose that, not me.
There is a difference between getting into the business of another and attempting to manipulate or control another. One can project that one is being attacked when a difference of opinion is shown, however that is not usually an accurate assesment, differences are what make us what we all are, human. It is never what someone does or says that we should allow to effect us, it is how we choose to react to it.
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Thursday, March 06, 2008 1:36 AM

Rosie, as a side note, what has come out of this for me so far is that some do not need control panel comment editor to change what was said into what suits  them on these keen blogs, even more scary in my humble...
Joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What is disturbing to me about blog comments is... @ Tuesday, March 11, 2008 9:33 AM

We have no control over how another chooses to take what we write, we can only write what we want to get across, and send it out the universe, if another chooses to take it the wrong way or change it, we have no control over that,
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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