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What is your Responsibility when a Client......
get into the habit of calling too often? Spending too much? Do you address it to them? Ask them why they feel the need  to call too often? Do you tell them if you have seen their feedback all over the pages of others also? Do you tell them that you feel they are calling way too often and they need to not be too dependent on readers for every small aspect of their lives?
I have frequently come across callers who call what I would consider too often, and I do address it to the caller as gently as I can. I know that I personally have spoken to callers when I feel that the question is not one that can be answered at that time or if it is not an appropriate question for the information they are seeking, sometimes all it takes is re-phrasing to actually get a good answer, that is accurate for the situation. I will also tell them if I feel that the number of calls they are placing to me is too often and I will offer to answer emails as well as follow ups for free and talk about how often might work for them so that the extra expense is avoided.
But I am not responsible if I am sending free minutes and doing free email answers and follow ups and they are calling other readers, I do not have control over who the client calls and how much they spend. Frequently callers are unaware of how much they are acutally spending until the bills come in and I do not want to be responsible for people running up debts, but I also know that the callers need to be aware of their own part in pressing that call now button, and they can send an email instead.
Even if an issue becomes overwhelming to you at times, it may not be that pressing five minutes, not to mention five hours or five days later.....sometimes things look one way at one time only to discover they are not what we may have assumed or presumed them to be, if you are calling only to feel better about a situation then think twice. It may only make you feel better and that is never a good as it means you could become overly dependent on feel good readings to get you through a moment of fear. And that can result in financial issues when you spend way too much on getting readings....
So before you press that call now button.......... think long and hard..... what do you think has changed since you called 24 hours ago? Things cannot and do no change that quickly....
So buyer beware...
Joan

Published Monday, November 05, 2007 6:23 PM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: What is your Responsibility when a Client...... @ Tuesday, November 20, 2007 7:18 PM

Hi Joan
Just some thoughts along this line
There was a reader on this site (she's still on) who actually blocked me after just a few calls.It's funny because on her very listing she calls herself non judgemental and compassionate.I did not see it that way at all LOL.She judged my situation straight from the getgo and decided to write me long novel like emails asking me the who,what and whys of my story(I was very surprised about that) after my calls because I suppose in her mind she thought this would get me to "see the light."
I really did not appreciate the judging and I suppose she saw that I was still wanting answers so she blocked me just like that.(very professional esp after I'd left her excellent feedback that's on till this day)
I also don't think a reader should ever step over the line and decide to tell a caller in any way shape or form, not to call if they feel the actual amount of calling and spending is getting out of line.By that I mean if it becomes near daily or every two or three days.
In my personal opinion,
If someone is over l8 then my feeling is they should be old enough to make decisions on how to best handle their finances and their time on their own.If as an adult they choose to call a reader more times than that reader would like the reader should still be professional about it and take it all in stride -say to themselves that this goes along as part of the nature of the business and again try not to judge.By the way,alot of callers ARE smart and can tell if a reader is getting annoyed with their questioning..perhaps through a sigh on their part after the question is asked (as in "oh that line of questioning again")or when the reader says "okay?" (taken as a clue that the readers want to get the caller off the phone)
We all know that not every person clicks with every other but the bottom line is it's still a service that is being provided here and that we are paying so the service should be given.

As an example,if a person buys something in a store and say they buy that same item 3 times in a week is it really up to the seller to say "no you can't have another one you already bought 2 this week and I don't like that you're buying this or that again?" Of course not.The responsibility is to give the service that is being paid,hopefully in a friendly manner and no more no less.
I consider you Joan,a wonderful reader by the way  :)




Jewel265

# re: What is your Responsibility when a Client...... @ Wednesday, November 21, 2007 4:32 AM

I see and apprecitate your point about the caller being the one who should decide whether they are calling too often. However there are occasions that things will not change over night and asking the same questions over and over within the same reading or over several days within a short time frame may not be fruitful in any way either for the caller or the reader. And calling many readers can muddy the waters so to speak for callers, as getting so many different answers can be emotionally damaging. I never tell a person not to call, I just tell them they can email me but they might get a better quality and more informative call if they leave it a few days, to give predictions a chance to manifest, and for the energy level to drop and I do take their calls if they call me anyway and that does happen.
Joan

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