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How to keep healthy boundaries in your relationships

What's the Vibe......

Sometimes you read or see something or hear something and it gives off a vibe, an argumentative vibe or a feeling of discomfort...or even what feels like a veiled threat......

Sometimes it's condescending, holier than thou, a lecture type vibe and it just really bothers you and you cannot for the life of you figure out why it could have the power to evoke that kind of uncomfortable feeling in you ?

What are the things that evoke such things in you? Are there lessons to be learned about yourself from these kinds of situations? Can we control our reactions to people and things?  And when it involves your children, the tiger comes out, you can say what you will to me, but be careful when speaking of my kids. It's awful easy to SAY it is not what people do or say that should effect you, it's how you choose to react to it that counts... I KNOW someone famous said  that or something close to it but I cannot again for the life of me remember who it was :-)

Joan

 

Published Wednesday, June 18, 2008 9:05 AM by DruidsGlenTarot

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# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 6:26 AM

Well we are humans and we react whether we want to or not I feel.  When something really goes against your value system you just want to shout back.  It is human nature I believe.  I think as psychic's we pick up all the undercurrents also even in the written word at least I do.  You can really pick up the intention of someone.  
This blog will give us something to think about today so thanks Joan.

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 6:40 AM

I am not big on the shouting bit, but I get your meaning, the softer you talk the more the person has to strain to listen....People do not like to be shouted at even in writing :-) I guess undercurrents is the same thing as the vibe I was referring  to.
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 7:50 AM

Joan, you read my mind there.

I think a lot of what we interpret has to do with our current frame of mind and emotional state.  If one is "juiced" up and fiesty, they may take something innocuous and assume it was malicious.

I think sometimes we should all pause, take a deep breath, and reconsider our gut response.  I need to do this, too.

I can think of many things said to me with a passive aggressive undertone that I responded to with gratitude or a kind retort.  I just was not looking for the insult.  ;-)

Good blog!  Good point!

The Mathematician

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 7:56 AM

I think our gut response is the most accurate one actually, when we over analyze it never remains neutral or accurate for that matter..
And emotional state and frame of mind as does our relationship so to speak with the person matters most...Understanding intention is key I always say...one can misunderstand that easily....or take it the wrong way, in fact I witness a lot of that on here, maybe I am guilty of it myself :-)
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 8:20 AM

Joan,
Now this solely speaking for me,  I am a very strong empath and my double edged sword is that I pick up on BS and lies immediately in a person, situation, or things in general. I can the highest truth and depending on what way the wind is blowing I can walk away quietly or stick around and roll in the "mess" for awhile.

I think it is what ever your perference may be and what lesson your willing and needing to learn. Not always a very comfortable feeling because I am not always able in the right manner express with such ease and grace. I may just say it just as blunt as can be and regret it later.
My Intentions for the last 4 years of my journey, has been to grow tremendously spiritually,like rapid speed , lightening...lol and reinvent my human tendencies and balance my knowing with all.. To understand my past, present and future from a place of peace. To """BE"""   kinder, compassionate, understanding, not an easy job all the time, take hard work and a strong willingness.  The biggest gem lately,  as of late (BOUNDARIES) Setting them, knowing them, and honoring them with no guilt. Growing into them with an understanding that NOT everyone will resonate with each others energy. If you cannot at any cost and feel down right repulsed, I suggest avoiding conversations and interacting out of repsect on a higher level until you are able to at some point, and if not ever than so be it.
Great Blog as always Joan, you making me think and be a better person..Thank You

GIFTED11

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 8:25 AM

Gifted, what a nice response, and it speaks volumes to me when I can pick up the vibe, just like I did last Sunday, a situation I will deal with on my own, I do not need my fiance to take up my battles, it's like you said all about setting and keeping those boundaries, and that is why I named my blog boundaries...
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 8:55 AM

So my advice to you is if it feels like it's a bad vibe for you or it does not match your vibration then stay away and do not engage or get invovled........
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 8:58 AM

Dear Joan:

I too immediately pick up the intentions of written word but sometimes my take is not always correct I have found.  I can make some snap judgments that have come back to haunt me.  Most of the time however I am 'spot on' so to speak and I don't doubt my inner voice very often.  If I get a direct message from spirit I know that I listen to what is being said carefully.

Blessings Joan and this is a great blog today!

Rosie

Rosalea

# re: What's the Vibe...... @ Wednesday, June 18, 2008 4:26 PM

Sometimes it is screaming for attention, or validation or to work through some pain that is holding back their growth. The written word does not have to be all in capitals to look like it is screaming at you, you feel that vibe off all the words, the phrasing everything says something about the message and sometime the words say something else than the vibe and that's when I say, reader beware...
joan

DruidsGlenTarot

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