Word of the Day....
Reciprocity....
The dictionary defines this as mutual exchange as in both parties giving equally.. however we all know that at times that is not possible. As there are times when one person gives more than the other to the relationship or friendship. As long as that is appreciated and validated it is possible to continue with status quo however when one person feels as if they are doing more all the time it can cause problems.
What to do when you are doing more than the other all the time? Talking is a good start, tell them how you feel about what's going on, and make your expectations clear about what you want ( the other person may not be able to mind read ) so talking is important. And IF it continues, you may see that the other person is unable or unwilling to meet those needs and it is then you have a choice. If this issue is a deal breaker for you then say so...people can only treat you badly when you allow it, and continue to allow it.
It is not what someone does or says that counts, it is YOUR chosen emotional response that counts... we only have these kinds of overly emotional responses when we care about the person, a person doing or saying the same thing to us would not garner the same response if we did not care about them....
Joan