Ask A Witch: Dark and Depressed in Yelets, Russia
Dear Alexandra,
Hi, I am goth. I am simply lonely. I don't know what to do. Help me. Yes, I have a lot of friends, but no love. People like me, but I don't like them. They are all not what I want to have. Well, I don't think that you can change my life, but I'm just looking for advice.
Dark and Depressed in Yelets, Russia
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Dear DD,
You're right that I cannot change your life. Only you can do that! If you'd like my opinion, I feel that people who write to me who label themselves as "goth" often set themselves up for a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is, if they seek to define themselves by the dark and depressed, they'll end up with what negative things they wished for falling squarely in their lap! Perhaps the first step would be to branch out, and form more friendships that embrace your lighter side and the activities that bring you joy. This may also help you have more opportunities in your love life, as you may meet someone with what you want. If this has stuck with you despite external efforts, it may be time to investigate the possibility of clinical depression.
Light!
Alexandra
16 Jan 2004
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