Ask A Witch: Kitty in Bonlee, NC
Dear Alexandra,
I'm in a bit of a spot and don't have any one in a higher order from which to ask questions and get advice. My best friend recently met a woman. I was very happy for him until I started hearing stories about her. He is all but head over heels for her, and apparently, she has some feelings for him. Only problem is, she's got another boyfriend as well as girlfriend and has a few other "suitors." I recently told my best friend I care about him, even love him, and don't want him hurt. I told him what I had heard about her and he accused me of being jealous and wanting me for himself. I tried for days to make him understand what I was trying to tell him and finally he just stopped listening. My last words to him where that I would pray he didn't get hurt and to her, she better pray that she doesn't hurt him. I'm lost without my friend and I want to be able to at least enjoy his friendship again. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.
Kitty in Bonlee, NC
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Dear Kitty,
First of all, I wasn't sure about how you came into the knowledge of the girl's other love interests. Are these people you have heard about as "stories" from mutual friends, or have you met these suitors personally? Make sure that you aren't being caught up in a chain of rumors. Give the girl the benefit of the doubt. Does your friend know about his competition? If so, you shouldn't let yourself be too concerned. Open relationships are perfectly acceptable when the people involved are fully informed and mature.
Second, remember that your friend is in ultimate control and can make decisions for himself. If you have informed him about how you feel personally about his girlfriend, then you have done your job. Now, the best thing you can do is to sit back and allow your friend to live his life and make mistakes. Be there for him if he needs your help and listening ear during troublesome times.
Light!
Alexandra
17 Dec 2002
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