Dear Alexandra...
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 8 years now... He's 27 and I'm 24. I have had short readings about 3 times from different persons. They all agree that: we belong together, we are astrologically good together; he's a Cancer I'm a Virgo (on the cusp of Leo), and that there is a female in his family that doesn't want us to be together and trying with all her might to kill our relationship. He doesn't have any sisters, just an older brother. His mother and I get along well together. His brother's wife and I don't talk much because I kind of get a weird feeling when I'm around her with my boyfriend and or their family, like you can tell when someone's watching you behind your back or something. My last reading I had, it was revealed that it "felt" like it was the sister-in-law. Should I let it go or should I try to get closer to her or what? I was told that our love was stronger than any negative force this female could throw at us and we will beat her. I really just want to find out what's the deal with this feeling or what's the problem?
Virgo Skies in Bahamas
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Dear VS,
An interesting aspect of tarot cards is that the meaning may become clear later on. In the meantime, don't let yourself get worked up over something that may not be there. Look for smoke before you stamp out a fire! If you think that his sister-in-law is actually acting in an uncomfortable way, go ahead and talk to her about it. Don't be accusatory or she will be on the defensive. Instead, take some time out to get to know her. Perhaps invite her and her husband over for dinner and make a friendly night out of it! Let her know that you want to be friends if possible.
Light!
Alexandra
1/8/02
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Dear Alexandra...
I really, really need some advice please. I am desperate and am totally confused. Before I had asked you about the sister-in-law but it's gotten bad!
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years now but just recently, about five days ago, he got mad at me and broke up with me and didn't tell me why. I really love him and wish to be with him. I'm really depressed and sad. I feel like my heart is exploding or actually breaking in two. The first psychic reading I ever had said that we were meant to be together and that we will. I also had about two others that said the same but recently after Christmas. Two readings says that he's not for me and that there's another man interested or about to be interested in me. I just can't get that. I don't want him, I want Linc. He's my next door neighbor. I'm deeply in love and I know he loves me. Do you see us together again ever in life married? Is there a spell to find out his true feelings for me. I don't want a "love" spell to keep him with me or anything like that, that's just wrong. But he's not speaking to me and I'm dying inside. I was waiting to see if he'd call me! I was giving him space, but it looks like we've broken up.
Please help me. I really think we are attached some way some how. I'm hurting bad. His birthday is July 6th 1974 and mine is August 23rd 1977.
Virgo Skies in Bahamas
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Dear VS,
I'm happy to help you, but there's something wrong here. I do tarot readings every day and please listen to me when I tell you this. When you ask for many readings in a short time span on one subject it is not good for you. [See: "Beating The Dead Horse."] Your emotions about previous readings begin to influence the outcomes. The cards begin to show many paths. The cards are meant as a message from Spirit, not dice to be rolled again and again until you get the right answer. I'm afraid I must decline giving you a reading right now. Although I am a confident reader, I know when it is best to advise you to take control. You are in control of your own destiny!
Break-ups are difficult and you need to find out what he is thinking. Communicating with him is the only answer. I suggest you write him a letter asking him how he feels. Give him the options you are willing to give. You may wish to tell him that you want to be with him, but that if he doesn't want you anymore then he needs to give you closure so that you can walk away. It's the hardest thing a person can do sometimes, but it may be best for the both of you. I can't force you to take my advice, but I suggest that you take a rest from tarot readings on this subject for a time.
Light!
Alexandra
1/8/02
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Okay, now I'm lost.
Just found out that my boyfriend has a "relationship" with this girl Raquel.
He says that she loves him and he loves her but not the way that he loves me. He says he wants to marry me and he loves me more. Blah, Blah. I have a feeling he's been telling her that he loves me as a sister or something.
I have been through a bunch of these "relationships" with him through the course of our 8 year going on 9 year relationship.
Okay, I laid off of the psychic readings as such and not used candles (still meditating though) trying to get positive results.
My last two were recent (I had sent requests a while back and just got a reply)! One said we were going to get married and the other said move on! In total over the past two years I've had six or seven readings and four say yes to us being together and three say he's not for me.
My trust is shot to the ground and I don't know what to do. My heart and gut says to try and hang on that what the first set of psychics said might really happen, that we might really get married and have children. But my brain says get the heck out of it! I'm trying to not let the use of psychics fully influence my decisions as it is up to me to act upon it.
I'm just at a loss for direction. Our relationship has been up and down, in and out, but we still end up together and we have some good times.
I am asking God and my Grandmother, Virgina who passed to help me and guide me.
After all of that, my question is do you think that I should forget the mystical stuff and continue to pray and ask my grandmother for help or is it just a waste of time?
Virgo Skies in Bahamas
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Dear VS,
I spoke with you before about getting multiple readings on the same subject. It just doesn't work very well! And remember what readings are... They examine the energies at work in your life and then give you advice on the best path for you. These energies can CHANGE, my dear! I'm not going to tell you to forget all "mystical stuff", for indeed, even prayer is mystical. But I do support your idea to stop getting readings as you do not seem to be using them in a productive manner.
Light!
Alexandra
3/13/02