You’ve met a new “prospect.” You really like them. But they are not long out of another relationship. How can you avoid being the “rebound”?

 

The best clues come from what they are saying, because unconsciously they will reveal quite a lot about how they have processed their former relationship.

 

  1. Do they refer to the past partner as their “ex”? Or do they still call them “my wife” or “my boyfriend”?
  2. Do they make frequent references to the former partner, complaining about their behaviour or describing things they did together?
  3. Are they making statements that indicate that they are looking ahead to a better future, or are they locked into the past?

 

Some people process the past in a healthy way that allows them to move successfully into a new partnership without getting into rebound relationships, while others bounce from one rebound into another. The clues are there, if you listen for them.