There are times when I would love to reach down through the phone lines, grab a pair of callers by the scruffs of their necks, and bang their heads together - in a caring and loving spirit of course, grins. I see it so often, two people in a previously loving relationship who have had a falling out, each waiting for the other one to make the first move. The longer they wait, the more their frustrations and fears start to turn love into something very unloving, and the whole sad situation degenerates further and further. Yet they still insist they "love" their errant partner.

It's very simple - to get love you have to give love. You can wait forever for the other party to make the first move towards reconciliation, but stubborn pride won't resolve anything. You don't have to apologise or humble yourself (although that certainly helps!) but breaking the ice is the only way to get dialogue happening again. The longer things are left festering, the worse they become, hence the old adage, "never go to sleep on a quarrel."

So come on, say those magic words "I love you" and you won't have me come down the phone line after you, grabbing you by the scruff and shaking some sense into you!