A caller asked me a very interesting question recently. He has been preparing himself to receive a new relationship into his life after a long drought, and has been thinking very hard about the qualities he wants to see manifested in his new partner. The issue he had been soul searching about was this:

 

“Is it wrong for me to list physical beauty amongst the attributes I want in my new partner? I know that beauty is only skin deep, but I have come to realize that for me it is something I truly value. So can I ask for it?”

 

I suppose it’s a sign of the times that such a question should generate such soul searching. It’s a touchy subject. It has become politically incorrect to mention bodies! He was very uncomfortable with the conclusion he had come to about his needs. He was wondering whether it made him a shallow person. But the mere fact that he was questioning himself like that made it clear that he was far from shallow.

 

What I said to him was this:

 

It’s not wrong to ask for physical beauty, as long as it is not the only thing on your List, and it is not right at the top of the List. I could see that for him, physical beauty represented more than just fortunate genetics. It meant a person who was well groomed, took pride in their appearance, and looked after the body as a temple for the spirit.

 

Having said all that, I warned him that Upstairs has a sense of humour, and has a habit of delivering our Heart’s Desire in the wrong wrapping paper, just to test us. I wish him well in his quest…