Suspicion!

 

One of those Top Ten Questions that psychics are often asked is:

“Is my partner having an affair?”

 

The very fact that the question has been raised is the beginning of the answer to it. If the person asking has a past history of having been betrayed by a cheating partner, then that might be reason enough for the question. But in general, if your instincts tell you that something is up, then you’re right!

 

That’s nice and clear isn’t it? Well actually, NO. Because although your instincts may be alerting you to a problem, it may not be as straightforward as infidelity. What you may be picking up on is the fact that your partner seems distant, distracted, irritable … whatever. Take it as a wake up call that “something” is wrong and give him your full attention.

 

Jumping to the conclusion that someone is cheating can create a Catch 22 situation where you will interpret innocent signs as guilt, and leave a man feeling as though he might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb – if he’s getting all that negativity because he’s being accused of something he didn’t do, well, he may as well do it anyway because things can hardly get worse!

 

Look for the classic signs of cheating, but don’t assume the worst unless there are several present simultaneously. Changes in habits are the key indicators: spending patterns; computer and phone use; bedroom dynamics and general availability. Lack of sex is The Biggie. Unless he’s never been very active sexually, or has developed a condition like diabetes that suppresses the sex drive, then don’t kid yourself he’s lost interest – he’s just lost interest with you.

 

This can be a very emotionally charged situation but don’t wreck your relationship by jumping to hasty conclusions. He could be working long hours and is chronically short of money because he’s been saving for an expensive engagement ring or a long overdue second honeymoon! Make sure you’ve got your facts right before you confront him, and be really clear about what you hope to achieve by it. If you want to save the relationship, it won’t be achieved by the sort of argument where unforgivable things get said.

 

So, is your partner having an affair? The first thing to do is to ask yourself honestly why you are suspicious and go from there, with caution, and with common sense.