I spend a lot of time watching my husband’s rear end. Don’t worry, I’m not admitting to anything kinky! It’s just that we spend a lot of time motor biking, with one following along behind the other. It’s nice being the one at the back. You can relax a bit and just follow along. But you are still mindful of potential trouble approaching from behind.

 

After a while, we swap places, so the leader gets to relax a bit and the one who’s been having a bit of a mental break picks the route and scopes out what’s ahead. We have our signals and work as a team.

 

It’s a bit of a metaphor for a good relationship really. It’s fun to be the leader, but after a while it gets a bit tiring and it’s nice to have a break. Even the one who is following has a role to play though, watching the other’s back.

 

There are all sorts of models for the way relationships “should” work, but we’re happy motoring along, changing places from time to time, enjoying the view as we explore new routes and revisit favorite destinations, watching each other’s rears!