I'm never going to do this again~ or that...
Have you said those words at least a few million times? I am going away...I am done with this... I am out of here... I will not be doing this or that? To only cave in and do it again anyway..Do you ask yourself why you do that? Why do you storm off and make a pack to not do something only to return...and you give all types of reasons you have returned...We rant and rave about all types of issues to only find ourselves back at the drawing board doing it anyway. Does the fiesty within make you so stirred within that you have to storm off and make a stink? Bark so loud and "try" to make a stand of some sort...
I am leaving......I am never coming back.... I will not put up with this again...To find yourself doing it all over ....One more time...
I feel we do these actions to offset, to get some type of reaction. To get some ones attention.. To get something out of it that comforts us on some level.....If you were to go away how about silently ....why would you have to make such a hooray about how you will not be doing a certain something...again
We look for some type of support whether it be in a unhealthy way.. We look for something to say hey stay don;t go...please your the best... We look for people to stop us and to praise us so we feel needed ....Human nature ...But as we start to see through the real issues and the real reasons behind our behaviors we start to let go of the needing....we start to rip away at the core of what we really don't really need. WE do not need to be lifted so high on the pedastol any longer. WE are fine with being who we are without having to try to prove ourselves.. WE come into a pure true acceptance~ We than start to understand that we do not have to make (a stink) about what we will not do again or what we will not tolerate. Once you make that intention you have already started that process of detaching from how you feel and what you do not want to be apart of any longer. You do not have to verbally make it known. YOU can do all this by pure intention. The reason we go into a tizzy and talk about it, is for someone or something to rescue us on some level or say something that will heal that pain we feel..
With Love,
Donna