SOMETIMES THEIR ARE PEOPLE WE ARE UNABLE TO HELP...
Okay....this is my heart speaking, We love someone and we want them to be well, okay and are unable to really help them, why you ask? Well, my theory on this is that they need to help themselves. We hold support, we hold their heart, we hold them in our palm of our hands but- we are unable to fix them. We love them, we want them, we think we even know them...all that is great but, we are unable to fix them. The solution of fixing belongs to them. Not us. No one wants to really hurt anyone, yet so many times we find that we do, intentionaL NO..not always..We have to let them go, sometimes to get help that they need to repair their bridge.
We will always have faith enough to send to them, we will always have love and trust for them in a way..that leads them to finding their way. When someone is in deep denial they hide, they lie and say that they are not responsible for anything they blame. It hurts! But- What I am here to say to you is this, they are hurting way more than you. They do not know how to deal with their demise, their pain. Send them love with understanding that they will find their way out of the paper bag with both ends open...That is a promise!
Hugs,
Donna