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What's the Big Deal ?

I am inspired to write from looking at every angle of life as a whole,  to see what really matters. I do not have "energy_ time_space_or reason to have to make everyone happy all the time it is impossible and not my job.   No one person will always be happy with everything or everyone all the time. We are working towards not letting everything/everyone in our lives affect us on levels that is out of our control.

 We are here on this little earth to do our own existance and to cycle.  To go through our own settings and create what is appropriate in our lives for us. Looking back at how I have been able to help others it has been when I least expected to without forcing or pushing the iron fist.  I am able to do what is natural to me,  when I am not in any (element or scope) of "trying" when I just do without looking at this with any ideas or perceptions that allow me to focus my interior mind. To not examine everything and have to (know everything precisely- to a science. Nothing is definate without a slant for change. Everything changes and sometimes these changes may mark beyond anything we could of ever sparked in our imagination

I have been learning not to get involved with (obstacles) that do not have the capacity to see me for who I am. When you hold no true attachments to anything/anyone it allows your flow to go beyond what you (thought) you could. What I can do is set me free by not EXPECTING to fulfill everyone.

I am not here to fulfill everyone needs.   It's  impossible and it's not condusive. Usually, this means that a person is on the brink of needing to take inventory of their life  and need to make new choices.  Typically these choices  require one to delve into new grounds,  which can cause fear, anxiety and even panic. The signs of the fear, anxiety, panic this is expanding our own limitations. Our mind cannot adapt rapidly enough as our souls can. Staying out of the way, which means not to (feel the need to help in such a overly responsible way) Feeding into the fear_drama_ which does not exist really_ a true illusion.

Whats the big deal? The big deal is us- each person to take part in your own role-make you happy first_ not by having to do anything for anyone else first. Seeking approval hurts our identitiy. Expression is what makes our hearts dance  and that does not mean by fixing what may have never been broken in the first place.  My heart is speaking today and I am not putting to much work into making this  the ideal read with lots of logic attached. I like speaking through the heart , it allow me to stay out of the way with my ego. And quite frankly it is fun :)) I am not here to fix_ repair_ install anything. I am a toll booth that you pass through in your own journey of life.

If you are afraid I say,  "congradulations!"  If you say that you're confused, I say, "that is a good sign!" If you down right feel that you just do not know what to do anymore, I will respond, "You're very lucky!" I am not by any means patronizing, I am being quite truthful because its not about giving you the quick fix. Its about opening to the idea that growing may hurt at times. You will certainly feel the stretch when you are expanding into new territories. When you change from what you once were to what you are becomming, the feelings may be chaotic. However, from my stand point, its a good sign because you are gaining, not loosing. Hiding, only prolongs the pain and locks us into confusion. Facing our fears allows us to move past our blockages. This is why I am not here to "fix" people, as there is nothing to "broken" that needs "fixing." It requires to step out of your confort zone.  You will know what I mean within your heart....

 

 

 

Published Tuesday, July 01, 2008 12:36 PM by GIFTED11

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# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 10:24 AM by DruidsGlenTarot
I find that when I have gone out of my way to make others happy that I am most miserable. Or when I make choices based upon the preferences of others over my choices it does not work. When I do things to make my self happy, I am more in a position to be of service of others.
But that kind of logic only comes with life experience and not easily
joan

# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 11:17 AM by GIFTED11
We are always better Joan, when we are able and capable of ourselves.  We can not hide anymore from our (shadows or parts of us) that have been kept away for so long. I always (did) for others and rejected what needed to be done for me. I can see clearly that a brighter tomorrow only happens when we are willing to reveal_let go.

# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 12:11 PM by Ancestral Wisdom
This couldn't be more timely for me.  Long story.  A story of love and betrayal (not a man) and realizing that I was never 'there' anyway.  

I won't bore you but will certainly thank you for this great post!  

Be Blessed Barb

# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Tuesday, July 01, 2008 2:11 PM by Rosalea
Dear Donna:

Although I agree in part with what you are voicing Donna I have to add that I have always benefited by being loving and caring for others and their feelings.  I think our society as a whole has been fed a bill of goods when we become self serving and do not reach out to others.  I know I cannot please everyone and don't even try but I do think how you act and how you treat others is important.  I don't let others dictate to me I do listen to others input.  I don't allow them to make choices for me but I listen to the wise advice of friends.  We must beware of the isolation of the individual spirit I believe.  Only my two cents here and I thank you for letting me add it today.  God bless and thank you for making us think this day.

Rosie

# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 1:37 PM by GIFTED11
Rosie, I was not saying in the least not to be caring or loving or nuturing. Not at all, I think maybe we have a missing link here and that is okay.

I do not believe for me that I have to "fix" or "support" in the that way to bring something to the table. What I am bringing to the table happens through me naturally, unlike what I used to believe. Reaching out to others happens more when you are not so concentrated on doing it.
I have come out of that way of thinking more and more lately, surrendaring more to not having to be in control....just decided to share.

Love,
Donna

# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Wednesday, July 02, 2008 1:39 PM by GIFTED11
Barb,

I understood exactly what you were sharing, Thank you.

# re: What's the Big Deal ?

Thursday, July 03, 2008 7:37 AM by Ancestral Wisdom
Thank you for the understanding.  You see, we only have what we have.  I want to give more and then it comes down to making no money, for instance, based on too many free minutes or continual email readings.  I just want to help and will still do this to a point.  But, if I am to "give all that I have and no more" and then get 'burned" eventually.

I am learning to keep my professional distance with love and always care to callers.  But, I have learned that to get 'too' close' it can become a 'free game'.  I know this sounds harsh but it's not.  I am not 'free service'.  There are other sites for that.  

I am almost to point of going away as my 'sensitive' Lightworker' wants to give more than she can.  

I believe I will try again.  This can be done with all the love I have but .. does this sound selfish?..I need to make a living.  At this rate, I will end up homeless with 2 very old cats living in an alley somehow.  No, no more.  

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