Did He Cheat on Me?
One of the most common questions I get as an Intuitive Counselor, psychic, and channel over the last 22 years is this one..."Did he (or she) cheat on me?"
Quite honestly, I believe the person who asks the question already knows on a gut level the true answer. In many readings, people call to confirm what they already feel. They simply want to consult a person with psychic gifts who doesn't know them personally to confirm their feelings, and hopefully, to receive some guidance & perspective.
Since we are all intuitive at different levels, it doesn't surprise me when I hear a client say, "I knew it all along" or "That's what I thought" when I answer "yes" to the infidelity (if that's the case) or when I answer other questions. A woman in particular always seems to really know when their partner has been unfaithful and those that say they don't are usually in denial. If they didn't suspect their partner cheated on them, why would they even call to ask?
Sometimes, the fears and insecurities of a client does lead them to suspect their partner without just cause. When that happens, Spirit through me is quick to say, "You are thinking this way because of...(this reason or that). In those cases, Spirit often brings up childhood or past life influences, or a life lesson to learn for that particular client, always giving food for thought and an opportunity to grow spiritually.
Some clients want to know how many times a partner has cheated, with whom, when and where. Whenever they go into these kinds of questions, Spirit usually diverts the answers to ask, what good does that do to know? (Yes, Spirit does ask you to reflect on yourself at times during a reading).
If your partner is cheating on you, the bigger and bottom line question is, what real potential is there in this relationship? Isn't that what you really want to know; if it would benefit and serve the both of you to stay together or not?
What would you do with the information anyway? Feed it up to your partner just to create an attack and create a cycle of negativity? The truth of the matter is if your partner has been unfaithful, you are hurt, angry and want an apology. More importantly, I would hope you would want to understand why it happened and why you're still with this person.
If you feel the person is worth keeping, you want to open up communication and be compassionate to yourself as well as the other person. If you attack, most likely you will get that energy back. I'm not suggesting to bury the hurt, but to channel that energy into a constructive dialogue once you are less emotional. Call your friends, your mother, your therapist, journal, hit a pillow against your sofa, drum out your frustrations and yes, give that person a yell or two but do not keep up the pattern for too long if you still want him/her in your life.
Understand that the "how" and "when" really don't matter in the larger scheme of the big picture. And the "who's" only matter if your best friend was involved, for instance.
The other person or people involved don't really hold the answer. It's your partner and his or her actions that need addressing because those other details have the tendency only to drive you to despair and more anguish. The fact that unfaithfulness happened is enough. No one needs to add more stress to their lives by ruminating over small details that in the end only cause a cycle of grief.
The wisdom to know how to evaluate the situation is your best choice and truthfully, it's the sweetest "revenge" if it means you move on to someone who respects you more, and that includes yourself!
Please let me know if I can help you with any of your relationship issues by calling 1-800-ASK-KEEN, ext. 03064921.
Many Blessings,
Julie
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