What's Better Than Love?
I really don't have to tell you, do I? The answer you know inside of yourselves is loud and clear...nothing, I repeat, nothing is better than love. If that's the case, how do you go about finding love? How do you attract your life partner, how do you have more love in your life in general?
You've heard the saying, "What goes around comes around." Love works the same way. Give it freely from the kindness of your heart and it will come back to you. With family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, even perfect strangers, in almost in any situation this practice is foolproof.
What's great is, the love for yourself returns to you immediately just because it feels so darn good to give love away in the first place. If you’re giving love to someone who has the courage to accept it, the love returning to you of course feels wonderful. I hope that all of you have experienced this feeling many times over in your life, whether we’re talking about an intimate partner, friend, with a parent, child, even with a stranger or favorite pet!
If you want more love in your life, it does take courage. It does require vulnerability. It does take awareness. It requires making yourself available and open to possibilities.
Let me ask you this, do you offer a smile first to a stranger, or are you too intimidated to take the initial step? You’d be surprised how great it feels to receive a smile in return. But you might think, what if you don’t get one back? I’d ask you, “Does it really matter?” You took the chance of offering love. If the person doesn’t return the feeling, it’s really not your problem. You don’t have to feel foolish at all, or hurt. You might automatically and certainly have a choice to feel great that you had the “heart” to take a chance and brighten someone’s day, including your own.
If someone doesn’t smile back at you, have the understanding that they may not feel physically well, that they may not be in the best of moods and most of all, that for the moment they’ve forgotten the knowledge that you possess about how good a true smile feels.
There’s a practice that says, if you start to pretend you feel good even when you don’t, your mood may change for the better. When you smile, you can actually pick up your own mood. Even if you’re alone.
What does this have to do with finding your life partner? Suppose you’re walking down the street, in a grocery store, eating out somewhere, running errands or visiting an art gallery, bookstore, or any social event. Do you think that you’d raise the probability of attracting someone who interests you by offering the first smile?
Yes, it’s a risk. But I did say earlier that love does require courage, vulnerability, awareness, availability and openness. Personally, I’d rather take that risk rather than think that I may have missed an opportunity to offer love.
In 1970, Dr. Gerald G. Jampolsky wrote the book, “Love Is Letting Go of Fear” based on the Course of Miracles. His title pretty much says it all.
So, if you want to attract your life partner or simply have more love in your life, take the risk of practicing that random act of kindness, practice smiling at everyone whether you know them or not, contact that person you’re interested in as a potential life partner, tell the people you care about in your life that you love them, perform kind deeds and speak with love.
I guarantee that you will create for yourself a happier existence no matter what takes place in the world around you.
Many Blessings,
Julie
Copyright © 2008 Julie Yip