"Grandma Hugs"

Maybe the gold rule applies here?  Do unto others as ye would that they do unto you.

The instance of seeing your best friend's spouse with someone else might require you to confront the spouse with your knowledge and let he/she know what you know, and see if you can somehow intervene to stop the foolishness before it breaks your friend's heart?  That's a toughie!!  You dont want your friend to think you betrayed him or her by saying nothing.  Yikes!

Interesting post.

I've been in such situations where my best friend's husband was running around on her.  In this particular case, I believed that it was a situation where she knew, but didn't want to know type thing.

I was friends with both of them, and he was quite open about it to me. I told him that he darn well better clean up his act, that I wouldn't be telling her, but if she asked, I most certainly would tell the truth.  She never asked.

They're still married, years later.

Was this the right thing to do?  I really don't know.

Would love to read other opinions on this.  Great post!

You are right it sure is a toughie.
I have seen cases where the person being cheated on was told by their best friend about it and the person ended up resenting the friend for telling her.
It could have been she was embarrassed the friend was aware, or she could have felt it was none of the friends business. At any rate it was the end of a good friendship.
Laurie, as the outcome in your case was good and the couple is still together, yes, I think you did the right thing.
A dilemna like that will probably bother you more than it did him.  Sad..

I had a very good friend who was married and her husband was cheating... I did not know this in the physical world with proof, but saw it Clairvoyantly. I asked my heart if I would want to know if the shoe were on the other foot.. the answer was yes... I thought long and hard how it is that I would deliver this information and decided to directly ask her if she felt he would ever cheat... she could not answer .. somewhere in her heart I believe she knew. She went home and confronted him. He confessed, they got divorced and she now is happily married to a wonderful man her vibrational match. I do not regret opening her awareness. Great Blog.
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i believe everyone deserves to know the truth of what is going on around them.  nobody deserves to live a lie or be mislead in any way about anything that affects their life on any real level.  and yes some may choose to ignore what is going on around them in regards to a "cheating" situation for various reasons - some partners may truly not care what is going on as "relationships" can serve many different purposes - not just what we view on the surface as an outsider.  and that of course is ones own personal choice to make and not for us to judge as long as everyone is aware of what the true situation is and nobody is being deceived or hurt - but a partner should have the right to make that CHOICE - not be forced to live a lie out of deception or ignorance.  again - nobody deserves to live a lie UNKNOWINGLY - if they choose to accept certain behaviors in a partnership (personally or professionally) and cover them up or ignore them - then it obviously serves them on some level to do so.  the CHOICE is what should be a basic human/spiritual right.  IGNORANCE of a true situation in no way gives one a choice to improve that situation or move on to better things or grow as an individual and i would probably question why one would not allow an individual that basic human right by not allowing them to have all the information they need to make an educated decision for themselves.  information can always be given in as kind a way as possible and of course anonymously if need be so that it not affect ones own life and/or safety.   people who only think of how exposing a situation might negatively affect THEMSELVES when great detriment is being done to others and choosing NOT to "do the right thing" is not exactly an evolved place to come from as an individual - and there are usually repercussions down the road to an individual that chooses NOT to do the right thing in a given situation.  it is a matter of character.  so either way in choosing to expose or not to expose - your life is going to be affected eventually.  i do not care for the name "tattle tale" or "whistle blower" though really to describe such situations - and i do not have a better term to put in it's place - but i think i might be more careful what i discuss in a reading in the future.  makes me wonder what other kind of "blogs" or information sharing is out there on keen - as much as i love my chosen readers.  yikes!

Good post Melissa. Thanks for joining in.
I would like to say something to ease your mind. I dont' believe that these blogs touch on any one individual and their problems. They are supposed to be totally generic and no one should put in a blog anyone's personal information or situation. We are sharing ideas not someone's personal life. I am sorry if you misconstrued the idea here. I don't know what others put on their blogs, but I would never refer to any one personally. If I see an answer on here that did I would immediately remove it.
I totally agree with you that the more information that you have about a situation the more you are able to make a decision that will benefit you in the end.