10 "Easy" Steps to Mend a Broken Heart
Heartbreak is not selective. Heartache isn't prejudiced. It doesn't matter if you are male, female, gay, black, white, Asian, or even mentally challenged.....ALL hearts break the same, ALL hearts will mend - given enough time. And since we're human beings - we have a built-in "impatience" factor that prevents us from healing and truly waiting out the process. Most think that if they meet someone else right away after being dumped, that it will fill the void that love left. Ah, not so!
Here are a few tips that will assist you over the hurdle to get back into a happier & healthier space, allowing time to heal your broken heart.
1. Yes, you miss the relationship, but think hard about the person that you were involved with. Toward the end, did you REALLY appreciate the way you were treated? Ask yourself, "Is it the PERSON I loved or the RELATIONSHIP itself that I loved?" A sense of being special to someone else fills all of us with joy; but if that person wasn't treating you like you were someone special - what's to miss?
2. Time DOES heal wounds, so give yourself plenty of "ME" time. My take on the "alone" time is that the Universe is preparing you for the next BETTER relationship that is coming to you.
3. TRY not to be bitter about the breakup. Ok, he/she was a real jerk toward the end and ask yourself is it the person you are bitter about OR are you truly yanked at yourself for allowing yourself to participate in a destructive relationship?
4. Speaking of destructive relationships, are you upset because YOU couldn't FIX it, and your partner walked away from it anyway? Are you aware that there are "takers" and there are "givers" - you are blessed with being a "giver" and not everything can be fixed because you gave so much to the relationship without any appreciation and it ended anyway?
5. Use your "alone" time to heal. Do things YOU enjoy. Yes, it's scary stepping out alone, however, recognize this as part of your personal growth, and go out alone. TRY and put on your best "Inner Shine" and put a good energy around you when you do go out. It's an adventure!
6. A "replacement" will not come immediately. ANY "replacement" is only going to be temporary, anyway because you want A RELATIONSHIP. You really need to take the time to rebuild your emotional reservoirs. You're really running on empty if you put yourself out there too soon.
7. Stressing the TIME factor, take the TIME to write out WHO you ARE, and what you do want in a relationship.
8. Find new things that interest you. This is your time to work on who you are. (yes, this may seem redundant with #5, but it isn't.) If you're still going out, doing the same things that you always did, you're going to attract the same kind of relationship. Step OUTSIDE the box. Try new and different activities, as opposed to the same things that you've always done.
9. Most important, learn to be alone. Face it, if YOU don't like your own company how can a partner enjoy it, also? Pamper yourself, fix yourself healthy meals, keep your space clean, get your self-esteem back. Every time you do something KIND for YOU, it will reinforce how great you SHOULD be feeling about you.
10. YOU are NOT alone! No one is singling you out, pointing fingers at the 'suddenly single' person. There are TONS of single people in the world. Just because the media and event planners focus on "couples" and try to make this a "couples oriented society" does not mean that you have to buy into that. Be single, and be proud of it! So what? Your "singledom" is TEMPORARY.
Finally, thank God and the Universe that the relationship did NOT work out because there is ALWAYS something better around the corner. Dry your eyes, cry no more. Garner up your strength and know that the relationship you WANT and the one that is your true relationship EQUAL is coming. Don't get yourself all bogged down being cynical about love. We have a very LOVING God that ensures you that you are not going to be alone!
Make it a GREAT day! I'm available for your calls, and I send you angels!
Jane