5 Signs You are with Your "RELATIONSHIP EQUAL"
There are no perfect relationships. They do not exist. There are,
however, relationship EQUALS that DO exist. What is a 'relationship
equal' ? You put in equal efforts to keep your relationship flourishing.
No, I am not talking "soul mate", but your relationship equal can be a
soul mate for you. Following are the five critical elements that combine
together so that you know if you are with your relationship equal:
1. When you fight (and yes, you will disagree on many things) your
relationship equal is willing to sit down and talk with you. He/She will
not just spout off your faults and place blame on you, he/she will not
scream and yell at you, but talk. In an adult way, to figure out
solutions so that the same argument doesn't creep up wearing a different
costume. Together you find PRODUCTIVE methods to RESOLVE your
differences - even if this means that you agree to disagree.
2. He/She will make you feel secure in the relationship. Demonstrations
of love will always be present, whether they are small things like
turning off the lights, or making sure the door is locked. You will both
DO small things that add up to big things overall FOR each other.
3. He/she will not be secretive about his/her whereabouts. Your
relationship equal tells you what is going on in his/her life because
the care and love is abundant, and there is nothing to hide.
4. When you are fully present in a relationship with your equal, you
want to show appreciation, and he/she will show appreciation for you.
You each put the effort into saying thank you's and maintain respect for
each other.
5. You are both honest with each other, saying how you feel because
there is a safe space to express yourself. If there is something
bothering you, you do not fear coming out and saying it because he/she
might reject or laugh at your concerns. In a relationship that has equal
parts, there is no fear or over-analyzing what "might" happen.
Are you with your relationship equal? Or, are you with a
"project" that interjects drama on a constant basis into your
relationship, leaving you off balance and in a state of confusion?
There are productive ways to get your relationship balanced and in a
good space, but it does require two willing participants.
Sending you angels and stability today!
Jane