Are YOU Creating the Drama in Your Life?
No one wants to admit when they are "WRONG" because our society is built upon people being right. It takes a BIGGER person to apologize and admit that their behavior was "WRONG" than it does for a smaller mind to continue to point fingers and blame everyone else responsible except for the one person they should be pointing at - themselves.
When you LOSE THE NEED TO BE RIGHT, and allow yourself some alone time to sort through the fog in your mind, you can see for yourself: what difference does it make who was "right" or who was "wrong"?
I know a person that will go to great lengths to proove that he is correct in everything. This even happens in casual conversation - their need to be confrontational and insist that regardless of what you say it's wrong. It's pretty exhausting.
Some people insist on making an argument out of everything, even when there is no argument to be made. Then, they blame YOU. That's a perplexing dynamic. If you so much as question this person for your own clarification, the response will be "why do you want to argue about everything?". Hmmm. lemme think about that. It isn't so much an "argument" as it is just clarification.
A simple "Why did you do that?" presses buttons on some people that stem back to their childhood. You don't know this, you're curious. They, on the other hand, take it as criticism and get all defensive.
If you are with someone that is a proponent of confrontation, is defensive, and blames you for "making them mad" - don't walk away. Run. This is a sign that they will never take responsibility for their words, actions and behavior. It also means that your life with that person will be just as full of confusion and trying to figure out what in the world YOU did. Do you really need THAT?
Life is just too short to continually feel at battle with friends, partners and loved ones. It's easy not to participate - just say NO. When you just say NO, you are effectively removing yourself from the drama. AGREE with them. By agreeing with whatever they say - you are demonstrating your ability to rise above confrontation.
We all need some alone time to sort out the cobwebs that accumulate in our minds. There's something about being alone, in fresh air outdoors that allows our thought processess to gain clarity. Some of your best *ah ha* moments will come to you when you're alone - without the interference of someone else. Clearing the clutter and noise from your mind is essential to regain focus.
Therefore, if someone in your life is pushing their confusion onto you- confrontational, and argumentative - go for a walk. A LONG walk. Inhale the fresh air and know that you can choose to participate, or you can choose NOT to participate. Just how much drama do you really want or NEED in your life? Hey, the choice is yours!
Make it a great day!
Sending you angels,
Jane