Are You Compromising to "WIN" Him???
Oh, happy Day! There's a new person in your life, and really like him (or her). They have brought your heart alive again and you look forward to every time that you are in the same space together. There’s that little flutter of excitement, and gads, you just want to devour every moment that you are in their energy.
For the sake of this blog, I will use "him" instead of "him/her" but it is NOT gender-specific. Both men and women do find themselves in this position: compromising for the sake of having someone in their life. Read on....
As time goes by, and the relationship gets more serious, do you find that you’re tolerating little things that, under any other circumstance or with anyone else, would drive you up a wall? Are you pretending to be someone that you’re not just to appease him and make sure that he likes you? Are you trying to show him that you’re really a wonderful person, willing to leap tall buildings in a single bound because he asks you to?
Woah! Take off that Wonder Woman belt and stop spinning! Step back and re-examine this relationship! If he isn’t giving you the respect that you deserve, then you can ask for without verbalizing it. YOUR actions will speak louder than any words. If he doesn’t call you when he says he will, go do something else – don’t hang by the phone. If he is late for dinner once, forgive it. The next time, start without him. If it happens a third time, burnt food is a good thing to serve. Well, you get the gist.
It's all about respect. If HE isn't showing you proper respect, Meaning what he says and saying what he means- then what is the relationship? You are allowing this behavior to continue, even though it goes against what your principles are, for the sake of having a relationship?
Most of all what you need to do is respect yourself enough to realize that any man (or woman) is lucky to be with you, that you do not need to compromise who you are just to appease him or ensure that he will “like” you. Don’t put your career, your values, and who you are in jeopardy all because a man has decided to spend time with you and shower you with a bit of attention.
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Make it a great day! I’m available for your calls!
Sending you angels,
Jane