Are there "Pre-Existing Conditions" in YOUR relationship?
Would your relationship qualify for health coverage? In today's world of insurance, there are a ton of requirements to be met before being issued coverage. If you stand back and take a hard look at your relationship, how healthy is it?
Pre-existing "conditions" would be emotional baggage that cannot be dumped. Is your partner continually checking the status of your relationship based on his previous experiences? If so, you are not being given the benefit of the doubt. You are always put in the defensive position, trying to prove that you are "not that other person".
We all know that you get what you focus on, right? If your partner is expecting a certain behavioral pattern, that's exactly what manifests. You are constantly threatened with abandonment - how is this a 'safe and loving space' for you? You, therefore, shut down and give your partner what is expected.
How healthy is your relationship? Are you having FUN together? Are you LAUGHING a lot or are the tension and anxieties building so much that you're scrapping with each other most of the time?
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Sending you angels,
Jane