Bachelor Brad is an Emotional Illiterate!
Reality show Junkie (I admit it). I occasionally tuned into The
Bachelor to see what woman was jumping over hoops for a mediocre dude
with money. I watched him woo each one, and the sparkle grow in these
women's eyes in anticipation of the fairy tail love they were growing
into.
What a jerk. In the end - he tells BOTH the finalists that "Hey, you're
"amazing" but there's something missing". Leaving these two "amazing"
women heartbroken, confused, angry, mad, and feeling foolish as they
laid their feelings on the line - he didn't.
Well, the "something missing" is Brad's inability to be present.
He 'expected' with all the glamor and whoop-a-la, that he would be
swept off his feet by one of the 25 contestants. His expectations were
sky high with a standard no one (obviously) could meet.
The other thing that is "missing" is Brad expecting to have one of
these women create his feelings for him. He proclaimed that "his heart
was broken, too" yet, he didn't even say "Hey, let's date or get to
know each other in a more real environment". It was "bye,bye" because
after SIX whole weeks (with a bunch of other women dancing hoops for
his attention) he didn't "feel in love".
OK - REALITY CHECK. LOVE GROWS. It doesn't "happen" in six weeks on 6
dates with all kinds of distractions. That's bunk. But for him not to
even say, "I like you a lot, let's date outside of this fantasy land
and see what happens?" He's the epitome of an emotional illiterate.
On the other hand, as women, these two really got caught up in the
fairy tail. They "fell in love". Another reality check: Girls, you fell
in love under created circumstances meant to induce love. That's what
the program hopes to create for you - an illusion.
How many of you have been caught up in the "Illusion" of what's going
on, rather than the reality? Bachelor Brad is alone, without a woman
because he certainly has issues that he needs to deal with. Talk about
the ultimate commitment-a-phobe!
Summary: Keep your relationship REAL. There is no "Happily Ever After"
with ANYONE. Relationships are WORK, and to keep the romance and love
there, or to even have it develop takes work.
That's my 3 cents today. I want to send Bachelor Brad free minutes and
set him straight on "expectations" and "emotional availability".
Besides, I thought he had the personality of an asterisk, and couldn't
understand why either of these "Amazing Women" thought he was all that
and a piece of pumpkin pie, too.
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Many happy blessings for a bright and wonderful Thanksgiving!
Sending you angels,
Jane