Be your OWN "VALENTINE" - LOVE YOU!
Ah, here it comes again. That dreaded man-made holiday that celebrates love thus allowing Hallmark to make a boatload of money selling cards, and Whitman's sells tons of chocolates in those heart-shaped boxes. Oh, can't forget that the florists cash in on this day, too! If you're single, it could very well be the most depressing day of the year.... HOWEVER - I'm here to tell you it doesn't have to be IF you LOVE YOU!!!
self-de·struc·tive adj.
- Tending to do harm to one’s
self.
Self-Destructiveness has
the ABSENCE of:
self-esteem n 1: a
feeling of pride in yourself [syn: self-pride] 2:
the quality of being worthy of esteem or respect; "it was beneath his
dignity to cheat"; "showed his true dignity when under pressure"
[syn: dignity, self-respect, self-regard]
AND
self-re·spect n.
Due respect for oneself, one's character, and one's conduct.
Without SELF RESPECT,
and without SELF-ESTEEM, most will do something that will REINFORCE LOW SELF
WORTH, which is basically, self-destructive.
For example: having sex
with someone you don’t know….
IT HAS NOTHING TO DO
WITH INTIMACY.
It is LACK of REGARD
FOR SELF.
IF you feel worthless, you
have no self-respect. You will do something that will make you feel humiliated; and
you will do something that is GOING TO REINFORCE THIS. What you do with “A perfect
stranger” has nothing to do with Love or Intimacy – and everything to do with
the self-hatred you feel for yourself. Afterward, you are able to say, “See,
you are worthless, and you don’t deserve anything”.
Why does it continue? Because
you don’t get out of your “loathing space”, and you continue your own
self-punishment; because you have no emotional attachment, it IS easy to DETACH,
and continue to punish yourself in this self-destructive space.
The angels WANT you to LOVE
YOURSELF, and have RESPECT for the life you’ve been gifted. Are you snagged in the
“blame, shame guilt” trip of self-hatred? Do you realize that this is something
that you create? The Universe has perfect, unconditional love for YOU. Why is
it so difficult for some to understand this? Why is it that some are so intent
on inviting relationships into their lives that are detrimental and
contradictory to the unconditional love that has been bestowed to them?
ASSIGNMENT: Today, take ten minutes to
love yourself. Look in the mirror and smile at the beautiful person that you
are. Do not find fault, but SEE the beauty in you and let your inner light
shine forward!
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I'm available for your calls today!
Sending you angels, Love & Light,
Jane