Brat Attack 101: I NEED TO KNOW and I NEED to know NOW!
So, you’ve been seeing each other for about 6-8 weeks.
Everything is peachy. You’re having fun, trying to just go with the flow of the
undefined relationship. You like him, he likes you, and you’re chomping at the
bit wanting to put some kind of definition into the relationship. Why? What
difference does it make “what” the relationship is? Why do you “need” to know
if you are “the one” or “if it’s going anywhere”? Where do you want it to go? Do you want the whole enchilada – and
in your mind if you don’t get the entire enchilada complete with side dishes –
it’s a waste of time?
Get this: NO relationship is a waste of anyone’s time – not
yours, not his – there’s a reason why you connected. It may be for a month, it
may be for a year; but it’s not a waste of time UNLESS YOU define it as a
“waste of your time” because the relationship did not or isn’t meeting what
YOUR expectation is.
Neale Donald Walsch writes in his book, “Friendship with
God” the following:
Friendship with God
Neale Donald Walsch
So, what of the two
“love-enders”: expectation and jealousy?
(God’s Answer) Even if you manage to eliminate
“need” from your relationship with each other, you may still have to struggle
with expectation. This is a state in
which you have an idea that someone else in your life is to perform in a
particular way, is going to show up as whom you think they are, or who you
think they should be.
“need”, expectation is deadly.
Expectation reduces freedom, and freedom is the essence of love.
When you love someone, you grant him or her total freedom
to be who they are, for this is the greatest gift that you could give them, and
love always gives the greatest gift.
It is the gift that I give you, yet you cannot imagine
that I am giving it to you, because you cannot imagine a love so great. So, you have decided that I must have given
you the freedom to do only the things that I want you to do.
Yes, your religions say that I give you the freedom to do
anything, to make any choice you wish.
Yet, I ask you again: If I torture you endlessly and damn you eternally,
for making a choice I did not want you to make, have I made you free? No. I have made you able. You are able to make whatever choice you
wish, but you are not free to. Not if
you care about the outcome. And, of
course, all of you do.
So, this is how you’ve got it constructed: if I’m to grant you your reward in heaven, I
expect you to do things my way. And
this you call God’s love. Then, you hold
each other in the same place of expectation, and you call this love. Yet, it is not love, in either case, for
love expects nothing save what freedom provides, and freedom knows nothing of
When you do not require a person to show up as you
imagine you need them to be, then you can drop expectation. Expectation goes out the window. Then you love them exactly as they are. Yet, this can only happen when you love your
Self exactly as you are. And THAT can
only happen when you love ME (God) exactly as I am.
In order to do that, you must know ME as I am, not as you
have imagined me to be.
IF you are able to just sit back, relax, and ENJOY the
moments you have with your special someone, WITHOUT the need to “define” “where
it’s going” not only will you maintain a better and longer relationship, it
will surprise you that the COMITTMENT you desire will just happen! No pressure,
no ultimatums, just LET IT HAPPEN.
Food for thought on this first day of July! Yippie!
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Make it a GREAT
Sending you angels,