I have noticed what appears to ME to be a disturbing trend among those in the dating world, and I really need to address it. It would seem that guys that go to meet women for the first time are EXPECTING these women to have no self-respect and no self-esteem. My suspicion comes through hearing about the way these women are treated by these guys.
Notice that I called the women "women" and the men "guys" because only a "guy" would expect that he could get away with the shenanigans that he is attempting.
I provide some guidelines for women - so today I am addressing MEN that behave as GUYS and what women WANT and do NOT want on your first meeting.
1. Do NOT assume that the woman you are about to meet in person after corresponding with her via email is desperate to snag a man!
2. DO take MONEY WITH YOU, and do not EXPECT her to pick up YOUR tab! This would mean that you do not ASSUME that if you just stare at the check she will pick it up.
3. Wear something decent. First impressions count so don't show up in the jeans you slept in the night before, unshaven and with a hang over.
4. Belching is NOT acceptable. It is rude. (As is scratching certain body parts, and making questionable sounds from other areas of you that are usually reserved for the rest room).
5. Attempting a passionate kiss immediately after your belching SHOULD get you slapped. Be grateful if it doesn't.
6. MOST women will be put off if you suggest she put-out on your first meeting.
7. We are onto your "Three day Rule" (waiting 3 days before calling to ensure that YOU don't appear to be too anxious). Trash that rule. In this day and age of instant messaging, text messaging, email, voice mail, mobile email, mobile voice, etc., etc. .... NO contact is just RUDE. A simple text the next day is NICE. (And no, you won't appear too anxious).
8. If you ASK her if she'd like to see you again, MEAN it. Assuming that you haven't displayed the actions of a total Neanderthal, If you ask her if she'd like to see you again, at least have the courtesy to follow up on this. I can't tell you how many calls I get from women that are totally confused by YOUR inability to follow through. Oh, and when you call her, she is expecting that you actually want to make another date. MAKE THE DATE. She isn't wanting a phone friend!
9. BE HONEST. Today's women are strong, independent, intelligent, witty, loving and kind! They are dating to find a partner. If YOU aren't dating for the same reason, you need to be HONEST with her from the get-go. Stop the nonsense of putting "WANTING A RELATIONSHIP" on your profile page, especially if your ex is still hanging around, and you've got ten other women in your 'stable'.
10. Finally, do not project YOUR issues onto HER. Your behavior is a direct indicator of how YOU feel about YOU. Just because YOU may not have a lot of self-respect, do not EXPECT her to!
All rightey, then, I think this covers the basics of the horror I've heard. Oh, by the way, the women I spoke to DID have the self-respect to recognize when they were being treated with NO respect. (bravo to them).
Now, to my dear friend that wrote on her facebook page, "Waiting for the "Supposed Snow" to arrive" ---- it's not NICE to mock Mother Nature!! There are 12 inches of snow out there, and it's still coming down! The Universe wants to know: "WHAT DO YOU THINK OF ME NOW!'