HELP! I've fallen and I can't get Up!
You're stuck in your relationship - in the middle - between the fact that you "love" him, and yet you are tired of putting up with the
same old doggie doo doo from Mr. Wonderful. You feel trapped by Mr. I
Know He's the Perfect One (He just needs understanding). You have pretty much
whittled away any shred of esteem that you once held because Mr. I Really Do
Love You (just have a hard way of showing it) has robbed you.
When you're stuck in anything, there's no movement. Hmmm. Interesting equation there, don't you think?
Static (s) - movement (m) = stuck (s). You love him. Fine. What is it that you love about him? Only you can answer this, and that's depending on the fact that you can recall the few times he was nice. This effort of "niceness" was a manipulative factor to keep you hanging around. Be honest- right?
What is it that keeps you where you are? Fear maybe? Fear of what, though? That
there isn't someone else out there that's as cruel as Mr. I Had a Bad Day and
Will Take it out on You? Or is it fear that you won't find the perpetual Work
in Progress that Mr. I Do Have A Good Side (just won't show it to you very
often) does? Or perhaps it's downright fear that you're going to *gasp* be
alone without anyone around to put you down and wonder "why the hell are
you two minutes late????? Who are you seeing????"
Worse, yet - are you trying to FIX it? Do you honestly think that Mr.
I've Had Issues for YEARS is going to change by your loving intentions?
If you are true to yourself, and look in the mirror at the shadow of
the person you once were, do you see who is "changing" to accommodate
Mr. Emotionally Abusive?
Your relationship is entirely up to you, and if you're happy with
jumping
through hoops (much in the same fashion as one of those circus
poodles), then by
all means continue to participate in the circus, and eagerly await the
little cookies that you get for "being a good girl and staying in
line", making all kinds of excuses for his reprehensible behavior and
disrespect toward you.
Know this:
- HE isn't going to "change"
- YOU are the one "changing" - and it's an on-going "change"
because regardless of what outfit you wear, he is going to criticize it.
- The ONLY way to get "unstuck" is to leave the relationship. Acknowledge that you "love" him, but the behavior is unbearable.
- Acknowledge that you DESERVE better - because you DO.
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I'm available for your calls today to assist you
in getting out of the mud you're stuck in.
Make it a great Saturday!
Sending you angels,
Jane