Her Man is a Rolling Stone: She can't Get No Satisfaction!
"So, he gets me all hot and bothered, then - just like that *poof* he's 'done' and he rolls over and goes to sleep." (I'm listening and nodding like a bobble head as if I understand this but in actuality, I'm just trying to absorb what my friend is telling me). He's, uh, leaving you unsatisfied? "Yes!" She exclaimed! "I can't get no satisfaction from him! But, why? He starts out doing everything right, making all the right moves doing this and that (Thank God she didn't go into detail) then, it's as if he says to himself, "well, I've done my job, too bad if she's not happy."
I haven't really experienced this phenomena, however, I've heard of it more than once. In my opinion, I feel that it's a form of manipulation. If she were to do that to him, he'd be storming around screaming and calling her a tease. Yet, it's perfectly okay for him to leave her high and dry? No, it isn't. I gave her this advice, and it worked:
"Ok, sweetie, the next time he 'starts in', simply say: I'll participate only IF you are willing to go the full 9 innings with me, and not stop with a man on 2nd and 3rd base; the pinch hitter stepping up to bat, at the bottom of the 9th, with 2 outs - and the score is tied." (I have discovered that sports metaphors are quite effective when dealing with the male mind). Seriously, I'm not even a baseball fan but I'd stick to the T.V. to watch the homerun King bat one out of the park. Which is basically what I told her to tell him - "bat it out of the park, or sit on the bench".
When I saw her a couple of days later, she was beaming. "That did it!" well, maybe for now. I'm sure that there will be times when he'll slip up, and "punish" her for something minor that he makes major - and then use sex-manipulation as a way to "get even". Great relationship, hunh? But, she "loves" him, and well - it's okay with her. And, if it's okay with her, then that's just fine and dandy. Personally, MY standards are a bit higher. This type of behavior wouldn't be tolerated by me. Would it be acceptable for you?
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Here's to YOUR satisfaction - both in and out of the bedroom -
hope you make it a great day!
Sending you angels,
Jane