MANSPEAKE 101 - When you FIRST meet a Man
Did you JUST meet someone? Then you need to read this! Manspeake 101. Here it is. Straight from Men. What men want, what they don't want in women that they meet. Now, some of you may say, "I don't give a hoot, I'll be myself regardless if it drives them away"... okay fine. I'm just stating some facts here based on my rudimentary research from "typical men".
1. They do NOT want your phone number unless they ask for it. Men that are really interested in you will go that extra distance and ASK you for your number or if it is okay if they call you.
2. They will call YOU, you do NOT call them. (See item #1)
3. They really don't want to go home with you the first night you meet them, but they will ASK you. It's a test. If you go home with him, he will feel that you do this frequently, even if you insist that you "don't normally do this".
4. Men that are interested in you will pursue you. If you say "no" to them on the second try, they will assume that you're not interested in THEM, and they will drop their efforts. Playing hard to get is one thing, but playing impossible to get is something that THEY get, and won't continue.
5. Their biggest fear is rejection. (well, duh...) When they call you, and you HONESTLY can't make the date they ask you out for, to avoid the "rejection" - YOU need to suggest another day to get together.
6. Be specific. Men deal better in specifics than vagueness. (Even though it's OK for them to be vague). Men don't understand long explanations for things that happen. You had a flat tire. Period. They don't need to know the moment that you discovered it, what you did to remedy it - or any of the details. Just state specifically why you are late - "I had a flat tire, and I'll be late".
7. Jealousy is NOT something that is cute or flattering. Initially, when you're with a guy on a date and he sees women friends of his, don't feel threatened. They view your jealousy as a potential control freak, and they will drop you like the plague.
8. Men do not want to be "picked up". Do NOT buy him a drink. If he is interested in talking to you and getting to know you, he will buy YOU a drink.
9. ASKING a man something can be construed as ACCUSING. Learn to ask him where's he has been without the insinuation of accusation. "Did you have a good time?" "Did you have a busy week?"
10. Men like their "cave time". If you don't hear from him in a few days - don't panic. They LIKE to take their alone time and sort through things. They are not giving YOU the "silent treatment" they are merely contemplating.
Men are not that complex, however they NORMALLY are not the equal emotional beings that women are. When he buys you a box of screwdrivers from Sears, that is a genuine gift from his heart to you. If he doesn't wine and dine you - be HAPPY. Why? Because you know he's not insecure and isn't trying to "buy" your affection and attention.
That's it for the INITIAL meeting, introduction period, tap-dance. The next installment will be Manspeake - when you start dating.
Make it a great day - and I send you angels,
Jane