New Term: "One and a Half"....
I was in a conversation the other day with a man that is a friend of a friend of mine, and I asked if he was in a relationship right now. He replied that, yes, he had a significant other and a half. A "half"? What is a "Half"? Well, he said, she is a 'friend with benefits". Okayyyy. Does she KNOW that she's just a 'friend with benefits?" Not exactly, as he's never disclosed to her that there is someone else more significant to him.
Half. I'm just looking at this word and thinking to myself "Who would want to be considered 1/2 of anything?" Do I judge this man because he has it all worked out where there's someone that he cares about in one place, and this 'half' in another? Of course not. It's his choice, and he's content with it.
However, what I wonder is how does this "half" feel? So I asked, doesn't she think that there's more to your relationship than that, perhaps it will move forward and actually go somewhere one day?" His response to me was that it has been like it is, without promise or any conversation leading her to believe that it will, but ultimately admitted to me that, Yes, she does want more from it.
Just interesting to me, the perspectives that we use sometimes. The internal lies to ourselves that justify our actions, or the lying by omission which makes everything okay.
I sure wouldn't want to be considered a "half" to anyone. Would you?
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