Refuse to be Confused by the MIXED SIGNALS!
Stop. Go. Stop. Go. This is what those red and green twinkle lights of
Christmas strands remind me of. The green lights flash, then the red
ones. Mixed signals. Remember, we all learned as kids that song about
the stop light - "Red on top means stop, stop, stop...Yellow says be
careful...Green below says go, go, go.. Yellow says be careful". And,
mixed signals don't have a Yellow light - it's either Stop or Go. Some
fun here, hunh?
One minute your partner is present, the next he/she is screeching on the breaks. What to do?
Yield!!! Locate YOUR yellow light! Use caution. Step back. REFUSE to be
confused. The reality is that it's THEIR confusion that is causing the
flashy lights to twinkle, "stop, go, stop, go".
If you do not participate and watch - much in the same way you are
watching a really bad movie - I mean a really bad one, as in "B" where
the film ran out of money and they use claymation to complete the movie
instead of real actors - what results is that you stay grounded. You
use caution. You don't participate in the back/forth of their ball of
confusion.
Face it: If you consider yourself to be the awesome individual that you
are; if you refuse to allow your brains to be their ping pong table; if
you just let the storm ride out - you're actually doing your partner a
favor. Your boundaries assist him/her in thinking things through, and
giving a respect to you. You don't blow up, you don't lose your cool,
you don't participate in their brat attack. You remove the little light
that is forcing the annoying "stop/start".
Then, you will see all green lights - steady, sound, grounded.
Make it a great day! I'm available for your calls
Sending you angels,
Jane