Ring, Ring, Ring - I WANT A RING for Christmas!
It's that "nervous" and "anxiety" time of year again. The Fa la la la
la season is in full swing. The burning question seems to be: "Am I
getting a ring?" I would suppose that after a while, the 'next step' in
any relationship comes to this. Evidently, as human beings we're not
satisfied unless we are comfortable the relationship is "going
somewhere"....
Seriously, though, (not like I'm not being serious, but I want to point
out a few things). What, exactly, does this "ring" symbolize to YOU.
Does it represent a commitment? "Oh goodie, a ring - he loves me!"
Does it represent ownership? "I got a ring from the dude, and now he's off limits to everyone". I own this guy?"
Does it represent security? "I got a ring, and now I have a secure future!"
Does it represent the fact that you ARE able to sustain a long term commitment, and that *whew* nothing is "wrong" with you?
So, what's in a ring, anyway? A symbol from a land far far away, in a
time and space where just saying "I love you" isn't enough - but a
boatload of bucks have to be dropped into a diamond - at least this is
what the jewelery store commercials are trying to convey.
Just think about it, if you will, WHY do you WANT that 'ring' so
desperately? What are YOUR motives for NEEDING a ring? And, most of
all, why is it that you can't just live in the moment and feel love and
joy without the necessity of a ring?
You're in a relationship for a reason at this time. It may last, it may
not. Why are we all so hell bent on NEEDING to know "where it's going"?
And on a final note, I have to share this amusing story about my 13
year old nephew that had a cute girlfriend in his life. They did
ballroom dancing together, and basically did what other 13 year olds
do; met at the mall with another group of boys and girls. Well, this
girl asked him, "Where is this going?". My nephew was flabbergasted! He
laughed as he told me this story and said to me, "I'm 13 years old!
Where is it SUPPOSED to go?" Poor guy, he was having fun with her, and
now they don't speak because he couldn't tell her "where" the
"relationship was going"......
Happy Saturday. I'm going to go toss out all the jewelery catalogs that
have plagued my mailbox since before Thanksgiving. I'm living on faith
that my guy loves me enough to get me what I really want for Christmas:
A Kitchen Aid Mixer...... That just speaks volumes to me about LOVE!
Make it a great Saturday! I'm available for your calls!
Sending you angels,
Jane