The Angel's Loft

Saving Grace: The "I got Dumped" Diet

Emotional shutdown. You can't eat, you find it difficult to sleep. You cry. A lot. It's a cleansing time for you. Preparation for what's coming next in your life. Personally, I love the "I got Dumped" Diet. I feel it's God's way of getting you back into your skinny clothes to attract someone better. (We DO live in a physical world, after all).

During your "I got Dumped" Diet phase, remember to drink plenty of water. Try to avoid whine, woops, I mean wine. It will dehydrate you. Try to avoid alcoholic beverages of any kind, even though your temptation is to totally force yourself into oblivion to forget the jerk that dumped you. Alcohol is a depressant, and the LAST thing you need is to feel more depressed.

Force yourself to eat something. Yes, it's hard, but force yourself. I don't care if it's a cracker with cheese, you need some kind of nourishment. Canned goods are great. They are quick, easy, and most of the time you don't even have to heat it up. You're saving energy spent washing dishes!

As for the crying... well, no one can stop that except you. However, it does cleanse your soul. Just remember to moisturize during this time. Otherwise, your face will be all puffy and red looking. Cucumber slices on your eyes will eliminate some of the redness, and it's quite refreshing, too.

As you work your way through the "I got dumped" Diet, you will rediscover clothes in your closet that fit you now. So, come on - that's exciting, right? Those jeans that are a Size 4 - fit you now. Wow, you look awesome! (Repeat 5x a day MINIMUM).

Moping around, pining away for Mr. Right that turned into Mr. oh SO Wrong...isn't going to do you any good either. Get out and get some exercise. Walk, breathe. These are two things that you can do without thinking. (Hint: if you listen to music, be sure it is something upbeat and HAPPY. MOST Country-Western songs are NOT).

Don't think. Don't remember. Push the thoughts out of your head. It's probably best at this time to push all thoughts out of your head. Clean the slate - and look at it not as "Rejection".... it's "REDIRECTION" for you. Know there is someone else coming into your life that is BETTER for you!

Now that you look marvelous, FEEL marvelous about YOU, keep looking in the mirror (while wearing your skinny jeans) and say, "Wow. I DO look great!" (And, it's fine if you want to add in a "Too bad the idiot that dumped me can't see me now").

If you must resort to resentment, turn it into a positive thought. Do not say to yourself, "Why doesn't he/she love me?" Say, instead, "What a fool he/she is to pass up THIS". (This technique is best accomplished while looking in the mirror, too - as mentioned above).

SMILE. I know it doesn't come easy, but it will certainly help with the puffiness due to crying a lot. SMILE. It's amazing what a good laugh or a SMILE will do for you. Affirmations are a truly wonderful technique to use when you smile..."I have the ability to light up a room".

Come on, you are a survivor! Just remember: BREATHE. It's going to get better day by day.