She Can't Get No Satisfaction...or, Can She?
"So, he gets me all hot and bothered, then - just like that *poof*
he's 'done' and he rolls over and goes to sleep." (I'm listening and
nodding like a bobble head as if I understand this but in actuality,
I'm just trying to absorb what my friend is telling me). He's, uh,
leaving you unsatisfied? "Yes!" She exclaimed! "I can't get no
satisfaction from him! But, why? He starts out doing everything right,
making all the right moves doing this and that (Thank God she didn't go
into detail) then, it's as if he says to himself, "well, I've done my
job, too bad if she's not happy."
I haven't really experienced this phenomena, however, I've heard
of it more than once. In my opinion, I feel that it's a form of
manipulation. If she were to do that to him, he'd be storming around
screaming and calling her a tease. Yet, it's perfectly okay for him to
leave her high and dry? No, it isn't. I gave her this advice, and it
worked:
"Ok, sweetie, the next time he 'starts in', simply say: I'll
participate only IF you are willing to go the full 9 innings with me,
and not stop with a man on 2nd and the pinch hitter stepping up to bat,
at the top of the 9th, with only 1 out - and the score is tied." (I
have discovered that sports metaphors are quite effective when dealing
with the male mind).
When I saw her a couple of days later, she was beaming. "That did
it!" well, maybe for now. I'm sure that there will be times when he'll
slip up, and "punish" her for something minor that he makes major - and
then use sex-manipulation as a way to "get even". Great relationship,
hunh? But, she "loves" him, and well - it's okay with her. And, if it's
okay with her, then that's just fine and dandy. Personally, MY
standards are a bit higher. This type of behavior wouldn't be tolerated
by me.
Here's to YOUR satisfaction - both in and out of the bedroom - hope you make it a great day!
Sending you angels,
Jane