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Should I Stay....or Should I Go?

SELF love. Self love isn't being vain or egotistical, it's a matter of drawing boundaries to what is and what isn't acceptable to you. The more you draw boundaries around your heart, the more you love yourself. You know how you're being treated in a relationship- is the behavior stirring up feelings of anger, or feelings of reaffirming how much you are adored? The "Self" knows the difference, but may argue with you because the "Ego Self" is making excuses for certain behaviors.

  • Does he/she call you when promised, or are you left wondering why? In this day and age of instant messaging, cell phones, blackberries, and all kinds of communication devices is there an excuse for not sending a simple "hi, am thinking of you" or "how's your day?"

  • Does he/she not make solid plans with you, but instead, says "sure, MAYBE we can get together?" (you better make other plans, because this is a major red flag you're "Plan B").

  • Does he/she surf the internet looking for something, not necessarily 'better' but just LOOK at what's 'out there'? (In other words, is your significant "other" making you feel "insignificant"?)

All of the above are things you COULD make excuses for the behavior, but what is it that your heart KNOWS that your head refuses to BELIEVE? We ALL believe in Love and want someone to share our lives with, but are YOU the only one participating in your relationship? When is it time to drop the fear of not having someone in your life that isn't "present" with you, so that you can ALLOW someone that IS present to share with you?

All things in good time. Actually, I call it divine time. When you are ready to put boundaries on what IS and what ISN'T acceptable behavior to YOUR standards, then you will be in a space where you WILL make the appropriate decision that will be YOUR choice...


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Merry, Merry - Sending you angels,
Jane

Published Monday, December 10, 2007 10:15 AM by Jane Wilcox

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Monday, December 10, 2007 10:17 AM by Daily Astrologer

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Monday, December 10, 2007 12:13 PM by Amysinsights11

# re: Should I Stay....or Should I Go?

Great blog!  I think we need to place boundaries on what is acceptable or unacceptable behaviour.  The above examples are unacceptable behaviour in my book.  I do not stand for anything less and if that person does not like they can see the door and hopefully it won't kick their back side as they are leaving!

Blessings to you my dear!

Amy
Sunday, January 27, 2008 6:40 PM by Lisa Marie

# re: Should I Stay....or Should I Go?

I can't believe that this blog came to me today! I was caught in a relationship that had been going bad for awhile now. My guy came to visit me one weekend and never left. He refused to pay any rent, clean up after himself or pay attention to me. He slept all day after being on the computer all night, and constantly complained about his situation which of course was always my fault. Snappy and rude my self-esteem started to fall and I found myself often locked in the bathroom alone depressed and crying while he ate everything in my kitchen. I asked him to leave a few times and he would either flat out refuse, or promise after the next weekend, and eventually...like today, stated that if I wanted him out I would have to pay him!!! He then searched for cash. I finally lost it and after alot of screaming and him busting up my place he left. Luckily my neighbors called the police and this parasite whom I thought loved me is gone. My friends changed the locks and I am not taking his calls. I don't know how this relationship got so out of control or how I let this go on for so long but I have to start loving myself again. And while I still have money in the bank and a place to live!! Thanks so much for this blog... I am printing it out an leaving by the phone to remind myself that Self LOVE should be what I practice from now on. Self pity and low self esteem were becoming the norm and something had to change for 2008. Thanks alot and wish me luck!!!!
Thursday, February 07, 2008 9:38 PM by Jane Wilcox

# re: Should I Stay....or Should I Go?

Lisa Marie - YOU ROCK! Forget "luck" You ARE MAKING 2008 GREAT - starting NOW! :-)

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