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That Crazy Lil Thang Called Love......


WHY doesn't he feel the way I feel? We have SUCH a DEEP connection!!! Oh, pleassssssse - not another blog post on LOVE *yawn*. Nope. Sure isn't. Today I want to share with you falling in and out of love. That intangible thing that you know is there - much like air - you can't SEE it, but you sure can feel it.

Here's an analogy: You're in a fine dining restaurant, relishing in your dinner (say it's a fillet mignon and lobster) You LOVE fillet mignon, and lobster. You LIVE for it, and you enjoy it. You could eat it every day and still want more. Your partner, however, may think that it's okay. He (sorry, no gender specific insults implied here) doesn't mind having fillet mignon and lobster. He enjoys it with you on occasion, but the reality, a steady diet of it isn't real appealing. He would rather eat at Micky D's and snarf down a Quarter Pounder with cheese, and an order of fries.

So, try as hard as you will - you cannot for the life of you understand why someone would prefer a stupid hamburger to steak & lobster! What is wrong with this person????

The point is, that although YOU feel the connection, you LOVE it, you RELISH it - and expect that because YOU have all these wonderful feelings for it, you EXPECT your partner to share the experience with you. He will, to some degree, but the truth is, he would be just as happy with a hamburger.

Once you accept that, and honor that he prefers hamburger to what YOU adore, your life is going to suddenly become a lot less complicated. I am absolutely NOT implying or suggesting that you alter your taste to accommodate him. Quite the opposite, actually. Think about it: you DESERVE and want someone that shares your love for what YOU love.



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I'm available for your calls today!
Sending you angels,
Jane

Published Tuesday, November 06, 2007 7:48 AM by Jane Wilcox

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Tuesday, November 06, 2007 9:37 AM by Daily Astrologer

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Tuesday, November 06, 2007 2:21 PM by deniqua huddleston

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I think that the info you gave was great i lov it. So what do you say if the gay does like the same things as you? and feels the same way. idk.
Wednesday, November 07, 2007 4:42 AM by Carolyn.mei

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I really love your interested story.
Bless you!
Wednesday, November 07, 2007 5:54 AM by Tas

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Ultimate crap. Love is not having someone 'identically' like you. Love teaches you to appreciate and celebrate your differences, not to evaluate a person based on your likes/dislikes.
Wednesday, November 07, 2007 8:13 AM by Jane Wilcox

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Tas, I appreciate what you are saying, but I feel that you missed the object of what I was trying to convey. It's the expectation that what YOU are attracted to should also be attracted to YOU. That's all.
Wednesday, November 07, 2007 6:04 PM by JE

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WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE IT IS FOR WHO THEY ARE, WE CAN'T EXPECT TO CHANGE THAT PERSON.I AGREE THAT WE SHOULD APPRECIATE THAT INDIVIDUALS DIFFERENCES,AFTER ALL BEING WITH SOMEONE WHO IS EXACTLY LIKE YOURSELF YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF BEING BORED
Friday, November 09, 2007 11:43 AM by Phil

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thank u so much cuse i do belive u just fixed my relationship
Friday, November 09, 2007 2:40 PM by Jane Wilcox

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That's empowering, hunh, Phil?
Saturday, November 10, 2007 9:31 AM by Debra

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Thank-you for the gift of empowerment!

I feel you just explained why I'm no longer attracted to my mate. I'm no longer in denial about the fact that I'm doing all the changing and that he is not. I've raised the standards for my own life. I feel that this is your point, not that another has to change but that you can't have what you truly want until you let go of what you thought you deserved.

Blessings to you!
Sunday, November 11, 2007 3:29 AM by NICE

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I  love you not beacause who you are but becaue  who I am  when I am with you!
Monday, November 12, 2007 9:58 AM by Madonna

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Debra,

It's a hard road to facing the truth about the folk who have been in our lives.   I belive that each woman and man deserves to raise the
standards in every facet of her/his life.  The part that I do not understand is the letting go of what we think that we d eserve...

What we know that we desrve might be at odds with other people's visions of our just deserves.   Certainly, it will be at odds with those who
rode roughshod over our lives..they didn't have the capacity to understand what we deserve,

Women's Alice in Wonderland view of what they deserve or what they could be and with whom might not be articulated, yet they  know what they deserve.  We think only the best is good enough.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007 8:26 AM by Carmelita

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Right on Madonna....We must continue to assert to the world that we
want more from the people who are in our lives or who want to be in our lives.  Some person in New York adverised for a well educated, physically attractive and articulate woman who is around age 43--an arm candy--who he could take to functions and on vacations.  However, he emphasized that he didn't want any emotional baggage.  

One of the radio announcers camouflaged her voice to be that of a woman of the night and claimed that "in my line of business, I have come across and catered in that fashion."  It was hilarious and sarcastic...

My point is that it takes much sacriice and compromise to be able to establish the type of relationships that people believe would fulfill the idea of the ideal relationship.

Women want more and expect that the desire is well understood.  The problem is:   Can their true desires be fulfilled?  In my example above, that arm candy might very well have offspring who would have
to be factored in...not to mention the aspect of her obligations...
aThe only thing that he offered was his job as a financial analyst..and the fact that he could underwrite the relationship.  What's the earning potential of such a professional versus the appetite of the kind of arm candy he envisions?  

can someone respomd tp this?  

A woman's view and desire of what's right for her changes as she matures and as she grows.  With age, the emphasis changes...and increases.. The things that might have seemed mportant seventeen years ago mght not be important at all...as the saying goes:  "Tome changes and so do women."

Wednesday, November 14, 2007 9:04 AM by Debra

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Nice,

You summed up what I meant nicely. :-)
Wednesday, November 14, 2007 11:51 AM by Jane Wilcox

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Carmelita, IF a woman is willing to compromise her character and integrity to be someone's "arm candy" who are we to judge? It's a choice, albeit an empty choice as far as I can see.

True, our needs change. As we mature, the emphasis often shifts from a physical need to more of an emotional fulfillment. As we mature, we become financially secure, which intimidates a lot of men. Oh, well. Are you going to pretend to be "needy" to satisfy the ego of a man that is accustomed only to having to display his financial worth to get female companionship?

Sorry, I didn't mean to ramble!!!
Thursday, November 15, 2007 8:36 AM by dseiny

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sometimes life takes turns you don't understant so you seek comfort in the now thinking there is no future

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