The Difficulty of Moving "On" and Why....
Letting go of anything and moving on is difficult, to say the least. Why is it that our minds keep directing us back to a particular person? The key word is "mind". It truly is YOUR mind that won't let go of something that you know in your heart you need to.
Because we are all composed basically of energy, surrounded in a human suit, you DO have control of the energy inside you. If you are focused on the window that has been shut, you are not going to be able to see the door opening behind you. In other words: If you go out, and really want to meet someone, just to get over another - well, you're not going to have a whole lot of success. Why? Because PART of your energy is saying "Well, I guess I'm open to meeting you" while the other PART of your energy is saying "I'm so heartbroken I can't stand it" and the person that you meet can feel it. How? Because, as I said above, we are all merely energy.
If you have the mindset (ego controlled part of you) that is holding onto someone for whatever reason- it's as if your energy acts like a repellant to keep anyone else away from you. You plead, you pray, you curse the person holding your emotions hostage, you do all kinds of things to try and forget and move on. Yet, you allow YOUR MIND to drift back to a happier time, a place when you were happy and in love.
I do not believe in "soul mates" and feel this term is totally over-used. What I do believe is that we have soul connections, and when someone cuts that connection off, we suffer a void. And, because that void is so huge, we immediately want to fill it again. IF you do not give yourself time to heal, and repair your heart, your energy will be scattered which results in a frustrating time for you as you embark on a desperate search. "Desperate" is the key word here. Just as animals can smell fear, human beings can feel "desperate". Who wants to climb aboard the Titanic?
Give yourself some "alone time" and focus on what you like. This "alone time" is preparation for the next one that will come into your life. We are all connected, and no one is "meant to be alone".... just as no one person is "meant to be with you" forever. Everyone that we meet and interact with has a PURPOSE to serve in our lives, and we touch each other for reasons.
Focus today on YOUR energy, how you can lighten it up make it less intense and experience the joy that you want in your life... with or without someone else contributing to that joy!
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I send you angels,
Jane